How To Give Erotic Massage
Preparing for a massage
Just as you would welcome a visitor to a dinner table that has been meticulously prepared, the environment in which you provide the gift of a massage should be meticulously arranged in advance.
To ensure that the receiver gets the most out of his or her experience, it is critical to create a pleasant, soothing, and scented setting.
MAKE A SPACE FOR MASSAGE THERAPY
An environment in which both of you can forget about the outside world and concentrate on your time together is essential for a genuinely pleasurable erotic massage. The location you choose might be your bedroom, bathroom, living room, or another room that you have designated for this task.
Spend a few minutes before the meeting to make the place neat, warm, and inviting. Remove any clutter from your environment to allow your brains to empty more readily and your bodies to begin to relax. The more your ability to relax and enter a tranquil condition, the more you will benefit from the massage and the stronger the bond you will have with your partner.
A massage table may be used to massage your partner’s back, shoulders, legs, and chest; however, a bed or an area set nearby on the floor for more personal activities that may occur later may be preferable. It is best to sleep on a hard bed or mattress on the floor. Make certain that your spouse always has clean sheets and towels to lay on and to use to cover him or herself. Check that any cushions, blankets, or throws you use are clean and smell like they’ve just been cleaned before you use them.
Lighting
The use of muted lighting and candles creates a sense of quiet, relaxation, and sensuality in the room. Place candles in such a way that they provide a lovely glow over the massage area while also ensuring that they are properly positioned and cannot be knocked over. Experiment with different colored lightbulbs; it is simple to switch out your standard bulb, and the light produced may quickly transform the ambience of a space.
When a red light bulb is used, the space will be bathed in a pink tint, softening any rough edges and bathing your bodies in warm, pleasing light, for instance.
Temperature
In order to avoid the receiver feeling chilly while the massage oil evaporates from his or her skin, make sure your room is clear of drafts and sufficiently heated. Because drafts are more evident while laying near to the ground, this is particularly crucial if you want to massage on the floor. Your partner’s skin will contract somewhat if he or she is chilly, making it more difficult for him or her to relax completely.
Being active during the massage will prevent you from feeling chilled as the therapist. To keep the body cool in a hot setting, you may need to utilize a fan to circulate air about the room. This can also help to offset any soporific effects of the massage and keep your companion alert throughout the session..
Aroma
When it comes to scent, it is extremely evocative and may have a powerful impact, particularly on someone who is in a state of relaxed awareness.
Aromatherapy has the ability to move the mind and help in profound relaxation and rejuvenation
Throughout the massage, use an oil diffuser to burn essential oils. Selecting oils that compliment or match the oils in your massage oil is a good option. You might also use incense, but make sure it is created from all-natural components before doing so! Many synthetic incenses are available on the market, and they may be overpowering in a small room. Chandeliers with fragrant candles will also provide aroma and a mellow glow to your massage room. In order to minimize exposure to potentially dangerous chemicals, organic candles are the best option.
Scented candles are a simple way to add aroma and gentle lighting to your massage room. Natural-ingredient organic candles limit the quantity of toxic chemicals emitted into the environment.
LUBRICANTS AND OLIVE OILS
Use a non-irritating natural base oil like grapeseed, almond, or mild olive oil. To enhance scent, a few drops of essential oils may be used. The smells listed below are perfect for sensual massage:
Lavender is a soothing herb that may help you relax.
Sandalwood arouses sensations of sensuality and serenity.
Male sexuality is enlivened and sexual tension is relieved by jasmine absolute.
Rose absolute—promotes loving sentiments.
Neroli absolute—stimulates vigor and fertility while also calming the nerves.
Before you begin, warm the oil bottle by placing it in a dish of just-boiled water. Regularly refresh the oil on your hands while you massage. To keep the oil heated, return the bottle to the water each time.
Usage a water-based lubricant made exclusively for intimate use for intimate genital massage. Internal usage of an oil might cause irritation and infection. (For further information, see page 188) .
TOOLS AND TOYS
There are a variety of toys available on the market that may be utilized to make an erotic massage more enjoyable. Here are a few ideas to get you started:
Feathers, a feather duster, or a feather fan
Silk shawls or sarongs (with tassels if you can find it)
vibratoscope (for use on the whole body)
Spray bottle for water (with battery-operated function)
Head massager (see resources, page 188, for a range of devices that stimulate the head region)
How to give Erotic massage
Privacy
Ensure that you will not be disturbed during the massage so that you can both rest. All phones should be turned off. Ensure that all youngsters are out of the house or sleeping in their beds. If your children are older, make sure they are aware of the dangers of smashing into the home. If you inform a teenager you’re going to perform a massage, they’ll run away! If you have a lot of visitors, post a notice on your door indicating you’re “resting” and requesting them not to ring the bell.
Music may be utilized to cover any undesirable sounds from the outside world as well as create an amorous atmosphere.
Choose music that isn’t overly loud or obnoxious.
Ambient music is great (see Resources on page 188), and there is plenty of music composed expressly for massage.
Make sure you can easily access your music player and adjust the volume. An MP3 player is great since it allows you to create your own playlist of appropriate music that will last for hours without requiring you to get up and change CDs.
Environment
Creating a particular atmosphere in which your spouse feels pampered might add to the whole experience. Make a concerted effort to get luxurious carpets, shawls, pillows, linens, and towels. To add to the wonder and mystery of the massage, use high-quality materials in rich colors around your environment.
Set up your massage outside if you have a private yard and the weather is nice. The sound of the air through the trees, the sun caressing your skin, water pouring into a pond, and birds chirping will all appeal to you. If you’re delivering the massage in direct sunshine, bring a shawl or blanket to cover your partner in case he or she becomes cold, and plenty of water to drink.
How to give Erotic massage
ESTABLISHING PRINCIPLES OF CONDUCT fOR EROTIC MASSAGE
When you’re preparing to try something new, like erotic massage, it’s a good idea to chat to your partner and establish some ground rules. This will provide you with clear parameters on what your spouse enjoys, as well as the courage to explore new things together.
1.Pay attention to what is going on for your spouse at all times to show respect and dignity. Take your time before going on to another section of the body if he or she is loving a certain touch.
2. Make a promise to dedicate the whole massage to your partner’s enjoyment, putting your own wants and wishes aside.
3.Agree not to steer your partner toward any specific objective during the massage, such as orgasm or penetrative sex, unless this has been discussed in advance.
4. Pay complete attention to the massage and do not allow yourself to be distracted.
5. Agree to act quickly in the event of any discomfort or a bad response.
6. Agree to accept any unfavorable response, even if you have no idea why your spouse is upset. Keep in mind that this isn’t about you; we all have various reactions to touch.
Your spouse may not like being touched on some parts of his or her body, or they can have a negative reaction to certain sorts of contact.
7.Agree not to speak if it isn’t absolutely necessary. Because the receiver will be in a relaxed, altered state of awareness, whatever sound you emit will appear more louder and obtrusive than you intended. Massage should be performed in a relaxing environment.
You’re getting ready to have a massage.
It’s essential that both you and your partner be psychologically and physically prepared before receiving erotic massage to get the most out of it. Set aside some time ahead of time to rest your mind, cleanse and pamper your body, make sure your breathing is quiet and regulated, and that your every need is met.
Your worries will be far behind you by the time the session begins.
GETTING INTO THE HEART OF THE MATERNITY
Allow yourself time to sit quietly and relax before your massage. Allow your breathing to slow down and your thoughts to drift away from the day. People who meditate, do yoga, go for walks, or get massages on a regular basis find it simpler to unwind because they schedule time for their bodies and minds to rest.
You may teach your body to react to signals like “breathe deeply, relax my belly, soften my hands, unfurrow my forehead…” until you can only think the idea and your body responds instantly. You may learn how to relax in a yoga or meditation session and take these abilities home with you.
Spend time with your spouse before your massage by going on a stroll in the neighboring countryside, sitting quietly together and meditating or listening to relaxing music, or going to a yoga class together.
CLEANLINESS & PERSONAL CARE
Before the massage, both you and your companion should shower or bathe, with specific attention paid to your feet, which seldom get the attention they need!
You will become more picky about the quality of scented items as your sense of smell improves, and you will notice how a scent may alter your mood. Use high-quality natural products with as many organic components as possible while washing.
Their fragrances are typically more enticing, and depending on the fragrance you pick, they may either raise or calm your mood. Make your skin feel smooth by massaging it with a pleasant cream or lotion. Remember to moisturise all regions, particularly those that are prone to dryness, including your feet and elbows. Another reason to use organic washes, lotions, and shampoo is that our skin is very porous, and we absorb the chemicals and poisons included in many modern goods via our skin.
Throughout the massage, it’s critical to maintain a high level of hygiene. After massaging various regions of a woman’s body, particularly within the anus, wash your hands to prevent unintentionally introducing germs back into the vaginal canal. For anal massage, you may want to put on latex hand or finger gloves. These may seem unusual at first, but the receiver will not know you are wearing them, particularly if you apply lubricant.
BREATHE MANAGEMENT
When you have a stressful day, your breathing becomes shallow, which impairs your blood circulation and numerous physiological systems. Sit calmly before your massage and let your breathing to become calmer and deeper, allowing new oxygen to enter your body.
When you breathe in, your tummy should expand. Your ribcage should raise, giving your heart more room to function properly. Make a powerful, continuous exhalation. For the next several minutes, continue to breathe deeply. Take note of how your body begins to unwind.
Maintain profound relaxation in both you and your partner by breathing steadily and deeply during the massage. Keep an eye on how you’re feeling during the massage: are you still calm and relaxed?
You’ll probably find yourself sliding into a state of blissful serenity as well. Allow your mind to wander if ideas arise, then rest once more.
IMPROVING YOUR COMFORT
Check the temperature of the room before beginning the massage. Because you are active during massage, you will not experience the cold in the same way that your spouse does, so keep that in mind. Wearing a lightweight blouse and shorts, for example, should be sufficient. If you wear anything heavier than this, you’ll have a hard time judging the temperature in the room.
If your companion need it, bring a cushion. Cover your spouse with a sarong, shawl, or blanket while he or she is laying down on his or her back, ready for massage. This serves two purposes: it keeps your partner warm and prevents unexpected shivers, and it gives him or her a feeling of security if he or she feels exposed during massage. As you massage your partner’s body, remove the sarong or blanket and replace it when you’re done, then leave them to relax.
YOUR PARTNER IN THE FOREFRONT LIGHT
Take a minute to practice this grip before you begin touching and massaging the front of your partner’s body. It’s a simple yet compassionate hug that calms and balances your companion in preparation for a massage.
This hold energizes and awakens your partner to sensual stimulation by opening up the energy channel that runs through the center of the body from the vaginal region to the top of the head.
Alongside your companion, choose a comfortable seat.
With your fingers pointing down toward her feet, place one hand on the top of her head and the other on her pubic bone. You should delicately place your fingertips on her perineum.
Feel energy traveling between your two hands as you pay attention to your partner’s respiration rising and falling. For a few minutes, remain in this posture.
Hands and arms are relaxed.
A effective sexual massage requires soft, warm, and relaxed hands and arms. Your partner will be aware of any stress since he or she can feel your pulse and pace via your hands.
Your partner will be able to let go more easily if you can relax and submit.
Before getting a massage, try one or two of these basic exercises to relieve tension in your arms and hands.
1.Stand with your back against a wall or door frame with your back straight. With one arm, reach behind you and push your palm against the wall or grab the door’s edge to feel the strain in your shoulder muscles. Aim to maintain your arm in a straight line behind your body, away from you.
2. Shift your weight to extend the opposite arm.
3.Sit or stand comfortably. Raise your shoulders to the height of your ears.
Hold them in place for a few seconds before letting them go. Any stiffness in your shoulders should be released.
Breathe out as you release your shoulders and repeat.
4. For about a minute, aggressively rub your hands together. Rest them on your thighs, palms facing upwards, totally relaxed. Imagine golden light pouring down into your hands, and feel the energy that emanates from them.
Massage fundamentals
There are no restrictions in erotic massage, which is one of its most appealing features. You may personalize each session for your partner’s delight, making each one a unique sensuous experience. You may use a wide range of strokes on any or all regions of the body, and you can use a lot of them or just a few. Simply go with the flow…and have fun!
GETTING STARTED
If you’ve previously massaged your lover, you may recognize some of the massage strokes used here. The difference with erotic massage is that instead of easing muscular tension or relaxing aches and pains, you utilize each stroke to heighten pleasure (although this can happen, too). So whether you use a featherlight touch, firmhanded pressure, calming strokes, or more aggressive pummeling to arouse and stimulate the body and mind, you will always be arousing and stimulating the body and mind.
Most individuals, in fact, appreciate a diversity of touch during sexual massage, from powerful and forceful to light and soft. Firm strokes work well on tougher regions of the body, such as the backs of the legs and buttocks. Erotic contrast is created by following these with gentler touches. Sensitive body regions, such as the breasts, should be lightly massaged at first, but as your partner relaxes, a stronger massage may be desired. At various levels of arousal, your partner may seek different sorts of contact.
Experiment to find out what works best for you and your spouse. You will gain confidence in learning to read your partner’s body and understanding which forms of touch to employ at when times by being aware of how they react throughout a massage and on various days. This is a fantastic approach to encourage sensual connection.
As you travel from one place to another, make sure you use enough long, flowing strokes to link the different portions of your partner’s body. Even if you’re attempting the strokes for the first time, they’ll feel fantastic to your partner.
Enjoy the sensation of your flesh contacting each other and being in sync with one another.
EXPANDING YOUR KNOWLEDGE
Include one or two new strokes each time you do a massage that you’d want to try. Choose those that appeal to both of you and employ them on a single body area or as part of a full-body massage.
Erotic massage also pushes you to use more areas of your body to arouse your lover than just your hands and arms. To boost his or her erotic enjoyment, use your lips, tongue, hair, breasts, and everything else you desire. Anything you like may be used in your massage: feathers, silk scarves, warm water, bubbles…
MANY MAN
Many of the concepts in this ARTICLE are based on classic massage strokes and techniques:
Swedish massage is based on five main massage strokes: effleurage (light, flowing, flat hands), petrissage (kneading), tapotement (rhythmic tapping), friction, and vibration, and is one of the most popular types of massage.
Shiatsu is a Japanese therapeutic massage that focuses on the body’s acupressure points while also including massage and joint movement.
Rolfing and Hellerwork are deep-tissue restructural bodywork techniques that “iron out” the body and realign the skeletal system.
Taoist erotica: Taoism blends the yin and yang concepts (masculine and feminine energies). A sensuous massage that incorporates the genitals is known as Taoist erotic massage. It is efficient in bringing sensuality and spirituality together.
Ayurvedic massage is a traditional healing practice that focuses on listening to your body and detecting and harmonizing your mental and emotional emotions. There are many different types of Ayurvedic massage; one popular in the West is an oil-based method in which the practitioner uses their hands and feet to assist the client refresh and balance themselves.
Thai massage is a blend of Ayurvedic massage and deep, yogic body stretching.
Aromatherapy massage combines the therapeutic use of essential oils in attempt to alter a person’s mood or health when used in combination with massage.
The receiver of this massage is considered as a “complete” person, with the massage aiming to reach the body, mind, and spirit.
Basic massage strokes are used, and numerous counseling and healing approaches are likely to be used.
Massage methods for beginners
The strokes indicated below are used throughout the massage sequences, albeit the order varies based on the body area being massaged. Some are better in specific areas than others, so figure out what works best for you and your partner. Mastering a variety of broad, flowing motions can assist you in spreading sensual energy throughout your whole body.
Flowing
Sweep your hands in a long, fluid, flowing motion over your partner’s curves and corners and back again, keeping your hands flat. Make sure your hands are thoroughly lubricated so they don’t catch and that the pressure is equally distributed over them. Use these long, flowing strokes on the back, legs, abdomen, breast, and buttocks, among other parts of the body.
Circling
Make circles on your partner’s skin with your hands flat, moving away from each other and then back around together. Use this stroke on the back, legs, abdomen, chest, and buttocks where there is enough skin for your hands to form full opposite circles.
Circles in miniature
This is a variant on circling in which you form little circles using only your fingers. If the region is fleshy, you may push somewhat harder than if you were using your full hand. This is an effective method for releasing tension and knots in the breasts, chest, abdomen, facial cheek muscles, sides of the neck, and upper back and shoulder muscles.
Kneading
As though you’re “kneading” bread dough, make this stroke. Large handfuls of meat should be picked up, hands and fingers should be engaged, and kneading should be done confidently and quickly.
If your nails are long, take care not to catch the skin. Examine your partner’s reaction to the pressure. Use this stroke on the waist, belly, buttocks, thighs, calf muscles, upper arms, and tops of shoulders, as well as any fleshy portions of the body.
electrical outlet
By quickly rubbing two fingers over the skin’s surface, you may create a fast vibrating action. Consider the solar plexus, which is located in the core of your body, as a source of power and vitality. This creates a “charge” throughout your partner’s whole body. This stroke may be used anywhere on the body, including the forehead, between the nipples, and the lower belly’s midsection.
Friction
To stimulate the skin’s surface, massage it with both hands quickly and firmly.
The heat created spreads into the body’s deepest layers. Less sensitive regions of the body, such as the legs, arms, back, buttocks, and shoulders, are most suited to this forceful stroke.
Thumbing
With your thumbs, make short, alternating, quick strokes in circles or pushing out from you. Keep your hands as flat against your body as possible. Use this technique on any fleshy or muscly regions of the body, particularly when massaging near but not on a bone. You can thumb up on each side of the spine, the back of the neck, the arms, the backs of the legs, the backs of the knees, and the fronts of the thighs, for example.
Feathering
Draw one hand after the other toward you, creating a delicate, featherweight contact with your fingers. This stroke generally makes you feel nice all around. You may also attempt this with a real feather; trace gentle touches over your partner’s back, shoulders, legs, and buttocks with a big, good-quality feather.
Hacking
Use the sides of your hands to “hack” fleshy parts in a rhythmic manner. This stimulates and excites the body, causing blood to rush to the skin’s surface. The shoulders, back (but not directly on the spine), buttocks, and backs of thighs may all benefit from this stroke.
Clawing
Pull your fingers toward you, one after the other, with pretty forceful pressure. If you have long nails, you may be scratching rather hard, so ask your partner for feedback.
This is a good exercise for the back, thighs, and chest.
Cupping
Alternate your hands in a drumming motion, softly rounding them over your partner’s skin. As you go over fleshy regions of the body including the back, buttocks, thighs, and calf muscles, use this method.
Draining
This is a deep arm and leg pressure stroke. Hold your partner’s arm at the wrist and push hard on the inside of the arm with both thumbs. Pull your flat hands back down the inside and sides of the arm to the hand, sliding your thumbs up to the elbow. Starting at the ankle, repeat the same action on the calf muscles.
Twisting
Make a wringing motion with both hands, as if you were wringing out a fabric.
Experiment with your partner’s arms and legs.
You can also rotate a foot from the inside to the outside with one hand, utilizing a broad, circular rotating motion.
Knuckling
Use your knuckles to “grind” into the muscles with your hands in a fist.
Stay away from the bony parts. The palms of the hands, the back, the arches of the feet (when your partner is laying face down), the buttocks, backs of the thighs, tops of the shoulders, and the lower neck are the greatest areas to utilize this stroke.
Biting and licking
The strokes made with the mouth are unique to erotic massage. You may produce an erotic charge and a variety of enjoyable sensations by using your lips, tongue, and teeth.
Experiment to see what works best for you and your partner. Try licking with your tongue’s tip and whole flat surface, nibbling sensitive portions with your teeth, and softly biting fleshy areas. Then, with short, sensual kisses, soothe the skin.
CARESSES
may convey a variety of emotions, including desire, admiration, and intrigue. Sensual, sexy, delicate, or passionate are some of the terms used to describe it. Use your fingers or the back of your hand to caress your companion during a massage.
Any part of the body may be stroked, but sensitive parts like the insides of the arms, face, neck, and chest are generally the most receptive. If necessary, moisturize or oil your hands so that your fingertips skim over the surface of your partner’s skin. Consider what you’re doing, where you’re touching, and how it feels to you as you caress. This might make caring for your spouse as soothing and moving for you as it is for them.
Delicate caresses may put you and your partner in a relaxed and peaceful condition, which can lead to sensual bliss if you continue.
KISSES
Make time to kiss your spouse before your massage, whether you’re arranging your space, or just spending time together. Intimacy, romance, and sensual connection are all promoted by kissing. You’ll be able to tell how your lover is feeling today by kissing him or her. You’ll be able to tell if he or she relaxes right away or whether he or she feels ticklish and sensitive. This information may be used to decide how you touch and massage, as well as if you and your partner need more time to rest and decompress.
Pause in the middle of your massage to kiss your spouse on the lips and anyplace else you both desire. Allow your lips and tongues to contact in a passionate connection. Make kissing part of your sexual massage practice by moving down to your partner’s neck, lips, and shoulders. Kissing is a technique to demonstrate that your massage is sexual and sensuous rather than just clinical.
You both produce hormones that make you feel sensuous, relaxed, and more receptive to sexual and sensual touches when you kiss, whether it’s on the lips or anyplace else on the body. Feel-good chemicals generated by the pituitary and hypothalamus glands include dopamine, endorphins, and phenylethylamine.
As these hormones enter your body, they provide a deep sensation of well-being, assisting you in relaxing and preparing your bodies for more physical contact.
Kissing, nibbling, and sucking all produce the same hormonal response. Start with soft kisses and work your way up to more passionate kisses as you and your partner relax.
EROTIC INITIAL STATEMENTS (32 EROTIC STATEMENTS)
A kiss is one of the most personal displays of love that two lovers can exchange, and it also causes a flood of sexually stimulating hormones to be released all throughout the body.
Kissing and caressing your spouse
This practice concentrates the masseur’s attention on one stroking hand, enhancing both the masseur’s and the recipient’s sensation of touch. As the caress progresses, you will begin to be “hypnotized” into a meditative state, which may lead to a profound sense of inner calm.
1 .Have your spouse lay down nude, face down, and then sit next to him.
2.Start gently caressing his body with one hand in slow motion. Keep your hand as flat as possible and use a soft touch, yet hard enough not to tickle him.
Only use your fingers on the smallest parts of your body, such as your neck and face. For 10 minutes, massage the back of the body, being care to cover every portion.
3 .Ask your lover to flip over and resume the touching on the front of his body for another 10 minutes. As much as possible, keep your hand going in the same direction and avoid skipping to other sections of the body. This uniformity of stroke will allow for a more in-depth meditation experience.
4. Sit quietly at your partner’s side after finishing both back and front, allowing him time to recover after the caress and absorb and digest the experience.
Making contact with your spouse
You must be comfortable with each other and have a strong feeling of closeness and trust between you to get the most out of your sensual massage. Spending time together, resting and concentrating only on one other before beginning your sensual massage might help you form a deep, loving bond.
BONDING STRENGTHENING
Erotic massage will expose your body to feelings it has never experienced before, therefore you must both be willing to attempt it. Spending time together just being near goes a long way toward allowing for greater intimacy or rekindling romantic desire.
Take a moment to just look into each other’s eyes, or abruptly grab your spouse for a lengthy, heartfelt embrace.
Listen to music while lying together and softly touching each other when the mood strikes. The practical activity on the next page may aid in the development of trust and communication.
Your sexual pleasure is mostly determined by your thinking.
Your body will react by appreciating the massage if your mind is calm (see page 166). In order to form an intimate connection with your partner, you must also use your thoughts.
You can connect with your lover emotionally and physically when you are both at ease in each other’s presence.
Simple gestures, such as washing each other, might help you develop a stronger bond. Bathing each other may bring you closer together if you feel separated, for example, if one of you has been gone or if you have both had a hard day.
You may also play the game where you touch each other and start reading each other’s thoughts while playing. This may make both of you feel more at ease with your sexuality, allowing you to relax together before beginning the sensual massage.
