HOW TO ASK A MAN OUT

HOW TO ASK A MAN OUT.

You are a contemporary man or woman because you pay your own bills, you have no trouble changing a tire, and maybe you even handle your own taxes… Nevertheless, there is one thing that continues to seem a bit frightening, and that is how to ask a man out.

Perhaps it’s the years of hearing that some guys don’t enjoy it when another woman makes the first move, or perhaps it’s a fear of being rejected… Whatever it is, it’s time to stop thinking about all of that and simply go in headfirst. And with our advice on how to ask out the person you have a crush on, you’ll have your first date lined up in no time at all.

HOW TO INQUIRE ABOUT A DATE VIA TEXT FOR GUYS

If you aren’t sure how to ask a guy out on a date, a fantastic low-pressure approach is to ask him out through text message. It has the benefit of not putting the person you have a crush on the spot and allowing him time to design a graceful exit if he doesn’t want to pursue the relationship. Here are some pointers:

BE DIRECT

Everyone admires someone who can anticipate their needs and fulfill them. Simply putting it out there, even in a text message, is often the most effective approach to asking someone out on a date. For example, “Hey, would you be interested in having dinner on Thursday?” I know of a very good Mexican restaurant. Alternatively, “Hey, [that band you like] is playing at [local venue], want to go together?” is a lot more effective way to initiate a social interaction than “Hey, want to hang out sometime?”

MAKE IT APPLY TO YOU

Because tone may be particularly difficult to interpret in text, you need to be sure that your message is targeted to him specifically. Don’t simply send a text message out of the blue to ask him out on a date; have a conversation with him first to start the ball moving and let him know that you want to meet up with him in person.

PLAY OFF A COMMON INTEREST

Do you enjoy similar bands? Art aficionados? smack dab in the heart of a cutthroat race to see who can consume the hottest chili? Take advantage of it when you’re asking a guy out on a date since it’s far more likely to lead to a ‘yes’ than a generic offer to ‘do something together.’

LEAVE ROOM FOR THEM TO SAY ‘NO’

Nobody like feeling trapped, so you should make sure he has a way out if he wishes to be able to decline your offer. Simply asking him whether he has any plans for the week will get the job done quickly. If he answers in the affirmative more than once? It’s an indication that he’s simply not that into you as a person.

HOW TO ASK A BOY OUT ON A DATE IN PERSON

Asking someone out in person may be the most effective approach to taking them on a date on occasion. Here is some information that can help you ask a man out without being turned down.

PICK SOMETHING THAT WORKS FOR YOU IN TERMS OF TIME AND LOCATION

Perhaps it’s when you’re both at a party, or while you’re both hanging out with friends or even when you’re doing something together; just make sure you have a plan B in case you don’t receive the response you’re looking for. When you are relaxed, it will show in how confident you are, and men are attracted to women who are confident.

PRACTICE MAKES PERFECT

Although that may seem silly, we couldn’t be more serious. It is a good idea to practice asking a man out in front of a buddy or by yourself in front of a mirror if you want to get over any feelings of shyness you may have. Building up your self-assurance for the moment you really have to ask a question by practicing your lines is a terrific idea.

ONLY INQUIRE!

There are moments when you have to simply get it done. After introducing yourself with a kind grin and a sincere compliment, the next step is to ask the direct question, “Hey, are you free for dinner sometime?” alternatively, “Would you like to go out on a date with me?” Any man worth his salt would be charmed by the indication of interest.

HOW TO HANDLE IT IF HE SAYS NO: SOME TIPS

You worked up the nerve to ask, but he declined your offer in the end. How should one react when they are rejected? It is OK to have negative feelings, and it is acceptable for it to cause pain. What is not acceptable is to keep trying until the no becomes a yes; you shouldn’t attempt to coerce him into agreeing to do what you want. Instead, reward yourself for being courageous and taking a risk, and then go find someone else who will appreciate the wonderful person you already are.

HOW TO CAUSE HIM TO ASK YOU OUT ON A DATE

Even if you are the one who is looking for a date, there are times when all you want is for him to ask you out in order to give you some peace of mind that he loves you too. Now, here is how you may gently push him in that direction:

KEEP A SMILE ON YOUR FACE AND A WIDE OPEN BODY LANGUAGE AT ALL TIMES.

Our brains are only vaguely aware of the messages that our bodies are sending them. It’s possible that you have feelings for the person standing over there, but the way your face and arms are contorted suggests otherwise. If you smile and make an effort to maintain your body language more open (by leaning toward the person you are speaking to, placing your hands in your lap, or moving to emphasize a point), you will probably be more successful in getting your point over.

FLIRT… BUT JUST A LITTLE

Encouragement is something that everyone, at some point or another, could use. So, establish eye contact with him and maintain it, congratulate him once or twice, and if you’re feeling bold, place your hand on his arm. But don’t go overboard with it; the goal here is to encourage him to ask you out, not to put him off completely.

INQUIRE OF HIM REGARDING HIS PLANS FOR THE WEEKEND

There are times when being subtle is appropriate, and there are other times when one should just… not be subtle. Inquire him about the plans he has for the weekend. If you’re lucky, it’ll be an activity that you can take part in, and he’ll invite you to do so on his own initiative. If not, asking him about it at a later time will demonstrate to him that you are interested, which is a feeling he will ideally react to by asking you out on a date.