Top 7 Reasons You Cheated On Your Spouse

It’s all too tempting to assume that all ‘cheaters’ are bad guys who prey on the weak and vulnerable in order to satisfy their carnal desires. However, there is always a second side to every tale.

It was impossible for you to refrain from doing so.

At the moment, everything seemed so natural.

And it suddenly seems completely out of place.

Although it goes without saying that being betrayed in a monogamous relationship is a terrible blow to one’s ego and emotions, there is always another side to the sad narrative.

You are on the right track.

What Does It Mean to “Cheat”?

Cheating is defined as any sexual, sensual, or personal act performed with someone other than your spouse in monogamy. It doesn’t make a difference whether you’re a boyfriend, girlfriend, spouse, or wife. Cheating is cheating, regardless of the circumstances.

You’re not supposed to do anything to anybody else that you wouldn’t do to your aunt.

You and your spouse, however, determine the rules in any monogamous relationship. What one person considers to be cheating, another may not.

Cheating may take several forms, according to relationship experts:

If you have sexual relations with someone who isn’t your spouse, this is considered adultery.
Acts of lust (such as oral sex and sensual touching)
Kissing
Video sex using Skype
Messages/images containing sexual content
Intimacy of feeling
Hugs and snuggles that last a long time
Pornography (highly debated)
Flirting

Being on a dating app like Tinder or Bumble without informing your spouse (even if it’s just for the attention) is a big no-no.
To summarize, you’ve messed up if you breached an agreement you made with your spouse at the start of the relationship, regardless of what it was. You slipped past them. You took advantage of the situation.

What Does It Say About You If You Cheat?

The reality is, you’re not a monster, despite the fact that there are hundreds of breakup songs from the victim’s perspective that will make you feel like one. People cheat for a variety of reasons. Don’t be fooled into thinking that simply because you cheated, you’re automatically a bad person.

It’s often easier to be the victim than it is to be the offender, particularly if you’re actually a lovely person who has done something “wrong.”

This isn’t a case of avoiding responsibility. You did something deceptive at the end of the day, and deception in any form isn’t desirable. For everyone concerned, it’s a pain in the neck.

However, your actions speak volumes about you. It’s a symptom that something in your inner world (beliefs, values, and emotions) isn’t lining up with your outward world (your relationship).

If the words ‘Yeah, but WHY did I cheat?’ have crossed your mind, keep reading.

People Cheat for a Reason.

There are seven primary reasons individuals cheat in monogamous relationships, according to an exhaustive research published in The Journal of Sex Research. The following are examples of these:

Insecurity about oneself
Core requirements that are not being satisfied
wrath (a sense of justice)
Issues around commitment
Desire for sex
a yearning for change
Going through a breakup

Do you agree with any of these reasons for infidelity? Let’s have a look at this in more detail.

Self-Esteem.

Every choice you make in this life will be influenced by your sense of self-worth.

And, although Marianne Williamson was correct in saying that “acting small does not benefit the world,” the fact is that many of us have our self-esteem nailed to the side of the road.

And it isn’t because of you. You were born into a world that was constantly reminding you of your shortcomings and flaws. It’s understandable if you felt compelled to seek further affirmation to fill the huge hole of insecurity. Please excuse the pun.)

#2: Unsatisfied Fundamental Needs

We all have requirements, whether we like it or not.

We have a plethora of them in a love connection. We seek companionship, sex, safety, validation, excitement, development, adventure, comfort, and so on.

And if one of our most pressing needs isn’t supplied by the one person who was meant to provide it, we may seek assistance elsewhere.

To dull their urges, some individuals take Zumba lessons or buy a box of Krispy Kremes to suffocate their unfulfilled sexual demands. When presented with a unique chance, some people look for it in someone else. And before you know it, you’ve cheated on something you never expected to cheat on.

Retaliation (#3) (A Sense Of Justice)

“The arc of the moral universe is long, but it bends toward justice,” Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. expressed it best.

We’re not comparing you to a world-class pioneering campaigner to defend your actions, but it’s true that we humans are driven to fairness. In a sense, tit or tat.

Perhaps your boyfriend was the first to cheat on you. They may have physically mistreated you or mentally harassed you. Perhaps they began to see you as a given.

So, despite the fact that two wrongs do not equal a right, we often use the ‘they injured me, so now I’ll hurt them’ strategy to deal with our pain.