Striptease As a fantasy
No other kind of seduction can compare to the seductive power of a stunning striptease or sensual lap dance. With filthy language, you may elicit complete arousal from a lover—and in some cases, even orgasm—in a short period of time. A rollicking round of phone sex may leave you both feeling hot and ready for round two in real life.
Moreover, an unexpectedly intense sensual massage may transform therapeutic touch into a ferocious confrontation. Exotic dancers, phone-sex workers, and sexy masseuses are all examples of people who have polished their abilities over time. As soon as you bring these abilities home, your partner will believe they’ve discovered a magical genie in a bottle, and you’ll enjoy the benefits of feeling like the sexiest vixen on the planet.
The prospect of putting your libido on display, delivering a blue streak, and rubbing ’em down can sound intimidating at first—but mastering the art of seduction and sex play can make you as irresistible as a force of nature. You don’t have to be an exhibitionist or have dancer’s proportions to be seductive, and as you gain these deceptively simple abilities, you won’t need to have a dancer’s body to succeed.
Confidence and sensuality are the seductive qualities of both the virile player and the femme fatale. Only the will to spark his or her fire, as well as a few simple methods, can convert a slow-burning flame into an all-consuming inferno. Your objective is to have a sexual experience that excites both of you.
Confidence
Daily, hundreds of women (and men) take their clothing off in front of an audience or in front of the camera, a practice known as stripping. And the majority of women appear rather gorgeous while doing it, pulling off their pantyhose with panache and massaging their bodies with confidence and elegance. But behind every confident stride, behind every tempting gyration, there is a person who had to summon the courage to take the risk in the first place.
These individuals, in contrast to Hollywood stars, do not always seem to be “perfect,” but they do appear to be screamingly attractive sex kittens and tomcats. You’re not exactly preparing to do a performance in front of a group of strangers (but, if you are, congratulations!).
Striptease As a fantasy
You are most likely interested in putting on an erotic display for someone who means a great deal to you—or at the absolute least, someone whom you want to impress enough to get into their trousers. So, you have to question, how in the world did all of those strippers manage to get themselves up on that stage in the first place? Is there anything you can learn from the experts that can help you conduct your own wickedly sensual seduction more effectively?
First and foremost, professional strippers have learnt to be content with what they have.
Because we only see a limited variety of beauty in our media, we tend to forget that everyone has the same concerns about their own appearance. In real life, the majority of individuals do not seem to be packaged porn stars or Hollywood stars. In retrospect, most of those porn stars and Hollywood types seem a little out of place in real life, don’t they?
Erotic artists have learnt to let go of their inner critics, if only for a few songs at a time, and let their sexual gestures and meticulous attention to appearance to speak for them, rather than against them. It works time and time again simply because confidence and sensuality are enthralling to be around.
Consider what it is that you find bothersome. The likelihood is that your fears boil down to a few fairly frequent anxieties: I’m concerned that I’ll come out as stupid.
Prepare your scene in advance by memorizing your motions, trying on your costumes, and testing any cosmetics you may use. In the event that you’ve done your homework, the only thing your viewers will witness is an attractive someone making their imaginations become reality. They’ll be thrilled as well since you went to such lengths for them, which is something that not many people do. The only thing that may be visible is your anxiousness, which will dissipate during the first few minutes of speaking.
What happens if I make a mistake?
Put together a “idiot-proof” routine or seduction by going through it with your partner step by step, repeatedly, and don’t leave anything to the last minute. Take every care to keep yourself and others from being distracted, from turning off your phone to securing dogs that could emerge unexpectedly underfoot.
For those of you who aren’t as coordinated as the rest of the pack, be prepared to chuckle and grin cruelly at your prey, while increasing the heat of your motions to keep them distracted. A sense of humour mixed with sexual purpose and resolve can quickly make them forget about the spilt drink—especially if you lick the liquid off their hands, faces, or necks after you lick it off them. Furthermore, torn stockings are pretty attractive.
My physique isn’t what I want it to be at this point in time.
Join the largest social club on the planet. Everyone, even the “ideal” ones, has this feeling at some point in their lives. If you don’t like it, devise a strategy for changing it.
If you can’t alter it, make the most of it. Make the most of the resources you have. Because sexiness comes from inside, rather than from the exterior, the chances are strong that you are far sexier than you believe.
Consider this: if you’re concerned about how you “stack up” to others in terms of the size of your breasts or the size of your basket, or any other measurement concerns, remember that bigger boobs (or a bigger bulge) will not make you sexier—they will simply make you someone who has big boobs (or a bigger bulge) (or a big basket).
And certainly, individuals may be insensitive critics and say inappropriate things—but if you find yourself performing for someone who behaves in this manner, you should never perform for him or her again.
Preparations
Choosing the fundamental pieces that will generate ambience, character, and a sultry ambiance will be your first step.
First and foremost, decide on your persona, or the demeanor that you want to exhibit throughout your presentation. Then decide on your attire, music, lighting, the time and day of the event, as well as a suitable venue for it all to take place in. To gain ideas for movements and routines, watch how-to videos on erotic dance or even TV movie representations of sexual performers to get some inspiration.
Start preparing at least a week in advance to avoid last-minute surprises.
Prepare for your performance by giving yourself plenty of time to develop a routine, master your routines, buy for attire and props, and take care of any other last-minute details. Don’t leave it to the last minute to organize daycare or send your roommates to the movies; you’ll want your home to be empty and free of any potential distractions, so plan ahead of time to ensure that this will happen. Make a checklist of other things to do, such as shutting off your phone and closing windows, curtains, and doors to ensure maximum seclusion.
Give your partner a heads-up by sending him or her a text message.
You want to surprise your darling in a pleasant manner, rather than catch them off guard at an inconvenient moment. Prepare to go on a date with them for a romantic evening—you don’t have to tell them what’s going to happen; just let them know that they’re in for a sexual surprise is enough.
Choose a character and dress appropriately for it.
Even if you could always be yourself, dressing up as a character may provide you with a lot of creative freedom in terms of props, costume, makeup, music and even your daily routine. The same way a French maid or police officer may fascinate and thrill, your sexy kitten self can set the night on fire with a sensuous dress and silky undergarments of her own.
Just make sure that anything you wear makes you feel attractive, and that you take into mind how you’ll be sliding out of whatever you’re wearing. The process of taking a blouse or dress off over your head may take some skill, although skirts are typically less difficult to pull off than trousers. (Though male strippers are capable of exposing their chests while removing neckties, business shirts, and even three-piece suits.)
Striptease As a fantasy
Instead of attempting to build your own pasties (little sequined or tasseled patches on the nipples), get them from a stripper’s supply store along with professional pastie adhesive.
The final touches are provided by the atmosphere and the venue of the event. Define your slithering and shaking territory.
Even while bedrooms are desirable, consider the kitchen, dining room, garage, and bathroom—or anything a little more away, such as a hotel room—in addition to your bedroom space. Select an appropriate setting for your character if you are portraying one. For example, a mechanic in the garage, a cowgirl in the barn, or a waitress in the dining room are all appropriate settings for their characters.
It is best to keep the lighting low but not completely black, and you may add visual interest by using focused halogens or colored lamps. When you are testing the appearance of your room, do it at the same time of day or night as your scheduled performance. Decide on your music, then create a playlist or burn a CD of MP3s, including slower tracks near the conclusion of your routine to keep the romantic vibe going. In addition to ensuring that your fortunate audience member has a comfy chair, make sure you have enough space for you to wriggle, gyrate, and undress in preparation for the “front row.”
Disposal of Waste
Let’s get the fun started! Take some time to learn a few steps and dance techniques, then put them together into a routine that you can repeat over and over again. Choosing two or three songs to base your routine on is a good idea; tunes that make you feel seductive and with a beat that you can slither, shimmy, shake, and grind along to are ideal choices. After all, you’ll be dancing to the music, and any old tune will not suffice in this situation.
Throughout your exercise, remember to maintain your head up, your chest out, your shoulders back, and your back arched as much as you can. In this way, both strippers and models may draw attention to their most attractive characteristics. Along with a whole bunch of attitude, to be precise.
Visualize a picture or a situation that makes you feel like the queen or king of the world, and then act on that feeling. The majority of people who have performed erotically have a vision that helps them get into the correct frame of mind before performing. “I just visualize the money coming into my g-string, and it just continues being filled,” said one dancer I spoke with from the famed Mitchell Brothers’ O’Farrell Theater in San Francisco, where I interviewed her.
I then take the money to a bank, and since I am so wealthy, the bankers take me inside the vault, which is bursting at the seams with my wealth. Occasionally, I’ll be on the red carpet at a Hollywood premiere, surrounded by hundreds of fans and having my picture taken. I also receive Academy Awards from time to time.” Make a comprehensive and realistic picture of your most extravagant vision, in which you are irresistibly attractive, and then send it to me. Make a convincing appearance and go about your business.
The same is true for sexy dancing: you must first learn to walk before you can soar. Take your first step by learning to strut your stuff. Your stroll will serve as the basis for all of your subsequent actions. Place your feet in such a way that they seem to be following an imagined straight line to begin with. Create a lateral swing with each stride before landing on your line to emphasize your hips.
Train your hands to walk by placing them on your hips, on top of your head, at the back of your neck, and just below your breasts. During your stroll, you may play with your breasts, run your hands seductively over your buttocks, hips, and torso, mess up your hair, or do anything else that best demonstrates your attractiveness and directs your audience’s attention to the appropriate areas of your body. Begin by putting your right foot ahead and drawing a half-circle to the right before pivoting heel to toe. You’ll see what I mean if you give it a go..
Instead of strutting, you’ll have a repertoire of techniques for pausing, turning, changing direction, and even taking your clothing off. Your hips are your most sexy weapons as a female. The pelvis is the part of the body that may roll and grind in males.
Slow, medium, and rapid rates are recommended for rolling your hips or grinding your pelvis in circles, then moving your hands in a circular manner while stroking your body seductively or gently peeling off clothes.
Grind your hips forth and back at varying speeds as well, and remember to demonstrate your hip motions from all angles: the front, sides, and back of your body. In order to get the entire impression, move your hips or pelvis in figure eights.
This technique looks particularly beautiful when seen from behind, when you’re bent slightly at the waist and your back is arched. Doing your hip exercises with your feet staggered is often the most comfortable position. Maintaining your focus during hip motions can help you stay on track.
Throughout your workout, intermittently caress your whole body from head to toe. When you’re standing with your back to your audience, practice lengthy, languorous strokes with your hands. You may also practice while kneeling (stroking from knees to hair) or on the floor (on your back, giving a sideways view).
You should pay particular attention to stroking and feeling your breasts (or chest), which may feel a bit weird at first but is really necessary for seducing others. Tossing and rubbing your breasts (men, focus on your pecs and abs) while closing your eyes, demonstrate to your partner how wonderful it feels. Think about how it would feel if someone were to touch your breasts for the first time. Prepare to have a good time.
Your movements should be sinuous and seductive in nature.. Slow down your actions even more than you believe you should, and sprinkle touching, bending, and removing pieces of clothes throughout your routine. If possible, maintain eye contact with the other person, with the exception of when you get distracted by your own need to touch yourself.
Your partner should only be turned away from you if you wish to demonstrate your hip motions or remove your top. Remember, it’s all about teasing and making your spouse want the sight of your bare body! In that sequence, remove your shirt first, followed by your skirt, bra, and panties (if you’re dressing as a character in a costume).
Removing each item of clothes should be done slowly. Consider keeping your shoes, hat, and garters on while you’re out and about. Tease your audience by giving them brief previews of what’s to come later on in the presentation. Attempt to unbutton a shirt by making a hip or pelvic movement for each button, pausing to touch your breasts or chest, unbuttoning all the way, and then letting the garment gently drop from your arms to the floor while moving your hips or grinding your pelvis during the movement. Always use your feet to gently sweep away any clothes that is in the way.
Pulling pants off elegantly is a difficult task. Make use of the zipper or the buttons to experiment with them. By turning your back, you may make your buttocks disappear. Bend over and stare at your audience via your legs from an upside-down angle. Start by getting down on the floor, rolling onto your stomach, and slithering out of your trousers as you rise from your position.
As soon as you have practiced taking your clothing off and learnt a few dancing moves, you should start planning your routine. You may add the following exercises into your own routine: • Set up your setting such that you may enter from a side door. Walk to the middle of the “stage,” turn around and face your victim.
Turn your hips while moving your hands all over your body. Stop, roll your hips in a figure eight motion, and massage your breasts to release tension (or work your pecs).
As you pivot away from your topic, glide your hands down the length of your body from breasts to toes, a smile on your face.
• Strut, pivot, maintain position, and shift the hips or pelvis as necessary.
• Slowly spin your hips or grind your pelvis as you begin to unbutton your shirt. Using your hips as a guide, open and close the buttons. Continue to fondle your breasts as you move toward your sweetheart with your shirt ajar and your hands on your hips (or chest). Take a slow writhing motion out of your clothing.
Consider that your hands serve as your lover’s eyes and wish-granting mechanisms. If you believe someone is longing to touch you, rub yourself all over.
• Play pranks on your partner by getting closer and closer to him or her during your daily activities. As soon as you see your victim, go close enough to touch him/her. Keep your feet directly between their legs, gradually uncrossing and opening them as needed. If you want your partner to touch you, you determine when it’s appropriate—often, it’s more fun to have them wait, and you may gently return their roaming hands to their knees to let them know who’s in control.
Beginner’s Guide to Lap Dance
Stripteases are transformed into lap dances when you begin to dance while removing your clothes and rubbing your whole body on your partner. Essentially, a lap dance is a glorified, sexified dry hump performed to music—but when performed between lovers, it is considerably hotter and more personal than any explanation could really describe.
Consider some of the following moves:
Then, starting with their legs and working your way gently upward, up their thighs and hips, waist and chest until you arrive at their shoulders.
• Trash their hair in a messy manner
• Raise your breasts from eye level to the chest, then lower them to crotch level to complete the position. As you descend to your knees, your hands may follow their journey and keep you stable.
• Take a few deep breaths and create seductive eye contact with yourself.
Integrate parts and pieces of your lap dance into the format of a striptease (if possible).
• Use your hair or other accessories you may have—for example, a maid would dust her audience from head to toe—to create interest.
In order to twist your hips, place one foot on their thigh (be careful with high heels).
• To grind your buttocks against their crotch, turn around and face their direction. Then, lying down, rub your whole body against theirs, reaching back to play with their hair is recommended.
• Facial rubbing with your breasts
• Squeeze their legs and have a good time with them.
• Roughly press your crotch on their thigh.
Finalize your routine in whatever manner you want—but the greatest way is with a passionate session of sex!
Your pleased target will be riveted by your sexy presentation from the beginning, and they will have to exert some effort to restrain themselves from seizing you, stripping your clothing, and ravishing you on the spot as a result. Getting him or her as worked up as possible is the goal, but don’t initiate sexual contact until you tell him or her to.
If you decide to integrate lap dancing into your strip routine, you’ll be increasing the heat every time you massage your body and breasts over their torso, tease them by moving away, and then return for another session. Particular emphasis should be paid to grinding in the crotch region and, when performing with a male, gradually brushing up against his erection as the concert nears its conclusion. As a last step, you may choose from the options listed below.
• Be sure to remove your partner’s clothing as well. While continuing to dance and do hip rotations, slowly peel off their shirt and open the top button of their trousers, allowing them to see you.
• Slide down their body while remaining on your knees to conduct oral sex. •
Pose for sex in “reverse cowgirl” position while facing away. Alternatively, turn around and sit on the chair with him.
Make a point of leading your partner into the bedroom by the hand.
Pull your companion onto the floor with you as you lower yourself to a kneeling posture.
Dishonesty as a Form of Communication
The intensity and climax of quiet, concentrated sex may be strong and climactic—but opening your lips and telling your partner what you’re thinking can really turn the heat on. Hot sex is made much hotter by dirty chat. It might be particularly helpful if the two of you are separated by distance but linked by a phone or DSL connection.
When you have hot chat with your partner, you are just giving them an explicit description of sex in as much detail as possible, with a little of drama, excellent timing, and well-chosen words. The use of obscene language isn’t required, and you’re never obligated to use phrases that make you uncomfortable. On the other hand, if you are not used to using vulgar terms such as “pussy” or “cock,” hearing these words come out of your lips during a heated argument may be enough to push your partner over the brink of suicide.
Talking nasty before sex, during foreplay, or throughout the day in a series of phone calls or strategically placed notes are all acceptable methods of communicating dirty information. You have the ability to explain a sexual desire in detailed detail from beginning to end, whether it is your own or your partner’s. If you’re in bed, you may express what’s really going on in your head as it’s occurring right now. To make matters worse, you may tell your partner exactly what you want them to do, as well as what you would want done to them.
Aim to be as detailed as possible while writing your essay. Everything should be taken slowly. If you’re worried about speaking nasty things out loud because it’s a new experience for you, set aside some quiet time, write out a list of terms you may have difficulty pronouncing, and repeat the list over and over until you’re comfortable with the words. Face a mirror while you’re doing the task. Initially, you may find yourself laughing—and it’s quite OK to do so when you try it out with a partner.
That you utter the words and that your desire to turn yourself and your partner on indicates that you mean it is all that counts. Do not be concerned if you believe it sounds ridiculous when you speak to your sweetheart in person. It will seem attractive and seductive when spoken to in person. Using your excitement to help you become more comfortable expressing filthy things, Carol Queen advocates talking foul to yourself while masturbating in Exhibitionism for the Shy.
Identify your most seductive vocal quality. Some individuals have difficulty hearing their own voice, and they may discover that doing a few vocal exercises helps them produce a sexier and more resonant tone. Practice speaking not from your neck, but from the middle of your chest, with the air being propelled upward from your belly button, instead of your mouth. Stretching the muscles in your jaw, lips, and tongue might help you to relax your face. As a bonus, your sound will be improved.
Reduce the loudness and the tone of your voice while you speak quietly to avoid being overheard. Try saying a phrase in a low whisper that is a little deeper than your typical tone of voice: Afterwards, try it louder and deeper, and finally hum while keeping your mouth shut. Speaking in hushed tones, but with the same resonance as the hum, say the words out loud. In order to locate the sexiest voice that works best for you (and to evaluate your loudness over any background music), you’ll employ a variety of various tactics.
The pace of your conversation will be relaxed, and your low, sultry voice will be audible throughout the encounter. Ask your partner a few questions, and then match their answer in terms of time, loudness, and urgency to the questions. As soon as they become arousable, you’ll be tuned in straight away.
In the midst of nasty discussion, though, what should you say is crucial. It might be difficult to come up with ideas for hot talk since it depends on your own imagination. One of the most easy and delicious methods to spice up sex is to describe a dream, which requires courage and a spirit of adventure. Instead of struggling to find the right words, look for them in a book of sexy short stories that concentrates on dreams for couples and steal one of the fancies from there. Check out erotica and nasty tales on the internet, and compile a list of anything that makes you feel hot.
Describe what you’re doing at the time, but make it filthy, is another strategy to use. Saying anything like: “Your thigh feels incredibly lovely beneath my palm,” if you’re stroking his leg, is acceptable. So close to your wonderful cock is something I like doing to you. This is when I can tell you’re having trouble. Want me to rub my fingers around the inside of your crotch? I’d want to massage you up and down your shaft, touch and push against your firm dick, and kiss you on your bare bottom.
If I could fondle your balls, slip my hand around the base of your shaft, and squeeze it, it would be fantastic. It would be easier for me to glide up your shaft and grasp the tip of your cock in my soft hand.” Do you see what I’m talking about? Afterwards, follow through on your commitment, including detailed descriptions of your actions at each stage.
You’ll feel as if you’ve found a hidden superhero power after you release your dirty-talking abilities and see what they can do for your sex life. Make use of your authority to transform your good-girl character into a tiger between the covers, or your femme fatale persona into a sly seductress on the hunt! A person’s dirty-talk abilities may be employed in bed, over the phone, in a chat room, at an overcrowded restaurant, or anyplace else that makes them feel comfortable…. It is not required to wear a mask or cape.
