Masturbation As A Fantasy
To make your desires come true, create new fantasy scenarios, make your masturbation sessions more exciting, or achieve peace of mind via understanding your fantasies, there is only one place to begin: inside yourself. Fancy, as well as how you choose to use it, originates inside yourself.
Don’t Be Afraid to Masturbate.
Everyone masturbates, and although our sentiments about it may vary from embarrassment to pride, and our masturbatory sessions might range from mechanical to happy, we all have one thing in common: we all masturbate on our private parts. While we are waiting for the bus, everyone of us has a dream picture or scenario playing out in our brains.
Masturbation has a number of health advantages, and many books have been published about them, debunking the detrimental stereotypes that have hindered individuals from feeling good about partaking in this natural, normal behavior. Masturbation is a time of release for some individuals, and it’s something they’d want to get over with as quickly as they can.
Others consider masturbation with fondness, seeing it as something restorative and satisfying, something to be savored in whatever form. Whenever we masturbate, we are doing something good for ourselves: we are providing oxygen and blood to our genitals, strengthening our pelvic muscles, and keeping them healthy and robust. – Additionally, we’re getting off the hook, plain and simple—and it feels great.
It is during our first few orgasms that we learn about how we want to be touched, and it is at this time that our sexual development starts. This is the area where we can go for reference and fresh knowledge about all of our sexual experiences; it’s like having our own personal sexual dictionary, complete with our own slang. When we want to experiment with anything new, such as adult films, vibrators, or even a new sex style with a partner, masturbation is the most effective tool we have to get us started.
Masturbation sessions are fueled by fantasy. The use of hot fantasies may be beneficial even in situations when our arousal is just physiological. Combining arousal, masturbation, and imagination may be a very effective learning method for learning how to: • Orgasm more intensely, harder, quicker, and more consistently
• Orgasm when doing sex practices such as delivering or receiving oral sex, anal sex, or intercourse with another person
Improve your ability to overcome sexual fear or anxiety, such as when having sex with a new partner, experiencing arousal issues due to stress, or feeling apprehensive while attempting new activities. •
• Adjust sexual behaviors, such as experimenting with new sensations such as anal sex or mild pain (S/M), learning to masturbate to new stimuli, or increasing or lowering the frequency of masturbations.
Fascinating Masturbation Sessions Featuring Fantasies, Sex Toys, and More
What if you’ve already acquired your favorite fantasies, and you like masturbating while thinking about them? How can you make them more real? It’s simple: a little planning ahead of time, and maybe a few shopping trips.
Public masturbation
Public Masturbation fantasies are difficult to achieve, but they are not impossible. Keep yourself up to date on the rules governing public sex in your region. If you are apprehended, you will very certainly go to jail—or at the very least be booked and arraigned—which is not nearly as hot in real life as it is in fiction, I tell you.
Make absolute certain that no one will be able to see you. It’s all part of the excitement, the fear of being discovered, but if someone sees you, you are engaging him or her in a sex act without his or her agreement, and that is not acceptable under any circumstances. Consider finding a location that is consistently isolated, such as a distant parking lot, a desolate natural environment such as a beach or forest, an abandoned warehouse, or an empty movie theater.
Some locations in big cities are well-known for being public sex hotspots; thus, you should only visit these locations if you are a local and are acquainted with the region. If you have no choice but to cruise, go with care on the highway.
Rooftops might seem to be open to the public while being closed off. Before you become horny, have a look around first. Consider where you would want to take shelter, how you can hide your activities, or what kind of tale you might want to give an authority official. Make it as hot and enjoyable as you possibly can—public masturbation is an exhilarating experience that can never be replicated perfectly. Don’t be afraid to express yourself. In Chapter 8, “Public Sex,” you may learn more about safety and excellent venues.
Explicit pictures have the ability to transport your dreams into your living room in full color and detail.
Adult films and photographs in porn books and magazines may show you exactly what it is that makes you horny, and you can get a kick out of them. As you masturbate to the point of climax, you might allow yourself to mentally immerse into the scenario. Imagining yourself as the lady with the penis in her mouth, or as the guy piercing her, is a fun way to pass the time.
Mirror
Reflective surfaces may take sensual images to the next level for people who are already comfortable with witnessing graphic sex, and they can be a fantastic educational tool for those who have never seen themselves up close—especially when sexually excited. Some people find porn distracting, while others despise the form of porn. You don’t absolutely need porn to make your fantasy more visceral; in fact, some people dislike the medium of porn.
The finest picture is always going to be in your thoughts, regardless of where you are. When you masturbate in front of a well-placed mirror, you may create your own sights by looking at your genitals, or your complete body, while you masturbate.
It is possible to use a tiny mirror propped up on your bed or on the floor, or you may sit in front of a full-length mirror and experiment with looking at yourself from various angles. The pleasure of drizzling and massaging lubricant into your skin is doubled when you can see and hear every motion your hands make—and don’t be scared to speak nasty!
TOYS
Not only can sex toys make amazing masturbation instruments, but they also make terrific props for your imagination worlds and situations. A range of sex toys and gear may be used to imitate a number of sex acts, including anal sex, oral sex, penetration, and S/M fantasies. Would putting a dildo in your mouth help your group-sex fantasies come true more realistically? Would a butt plug make the medical dream even more realistic? How about a nipple clamp to bring your dungeon to life.
Here are some delectably wicked toys and ideas to get you started:
For those unfamiliar with Dildos, these are small, phallic-shaped nonvibrating sex toys used for penetration that may be found in a number of fantasy settings. One way to compel someone to suck cock is to use one hand to pull the object around their face and then push it into their own mouth repeatedly, something that is simple to perform with one hand while masturbating with the other.
An addition to every fellatio dream is a dildo, and envisioning group sex is undoubtedly more enjoyable when there are numerous dildos involved. When you put a dildo in a harness, you may engage in gender play while masturbating both the dildo and yourself at the same time. The dildos, which vibrate, give a lively element to the celebrations. The combination of dildo masturbation and fantasizing is an excellent technique to learn how to climax during penetration.
What You Shouldn’t Put in Your Buttocks
What happens if you don’t have any anal toys on hand when you need them the most? There’s little question you’ve heard urban legends about individuals coming to the ER with all sorts of strange and sometimes dangerous objects stuck in their rectums—and regrettably, many of these tales are genuine.
When choosing toys for anal play, don’t make a snap judgment.
When it comes to stimulating your ass, make the appropriate choice: If you are embarrassed or afraid to disclose what you are excited about, we are talking about avoiding humiliation and maybe significant hurt in the process.
Always apply plenty of lubrication to the area surrounding the anus – the skin around the anus rips readily, but will not if the area is well-lubricated.
It is never a good idea to place anything in or close to one’s buttocks that has sharp edges, may potentially break or shatter and does not have a widely flared base to make retrieving it easier than it already is. Any object you place within your lubricated anal sphincter will be drawn in, and if you are unable to securely get it out, you will become the subject of an urban legend of your own creation. A butt plug or a dildo safe for anal use are both better options than carrots for this task—find the correct tool for the job.
Anal sex fantasies are enhanced by the use of anal toys.
For others, stimulation from their own finger, or even the “threat” of insertion from a finger or tiny plug, might be enough to set off their internal anal-sex alarm, driving whatever anal-sex scenario is going through their brains into overdrive. It is possible to implant anal beads individually, to leave them in, to remove them slowly or swiftly out of the body depending on the desire.
Alternatively, you may take things a step further by envisioning yourself as a fantasy “anal queen” (or anal slut), utilizing successively larger and larger butt plugs to excite yourself while visualizing a swarm of anal slaves serving you from your love sling.
Using larger toys in a safe manner may aggravate the sensation of “violation,” and any penetration device can be utilized to heighten the fantasy of being taken by force or being “used.” Also useful during other activities, butt plugs may be used to create a range of fantasies, such as servitude, slavery and medical scenarios—or just to free up your hands so you can get the dildo into your mouth more easily.
In addition to the conventional one- or two-handed movement, male genital adornment sleeves provide a whole new level of enjoyment. These sleeves are available in a variety of forms, thicknesses, materials, and colors; just select the one that appeals to you the most. It is possible that some people may find the small faux buttholes on some of these toys frightening, while others may find them erotically appealing. Would having anal sex with a porn celebrity be more appealing to you if you knew this? Try it out and see how it works for you. If tit-fucking is your current desire, semi-realistic molded breasts can offer your next session an edge over the competition.. In any case, these toys are completely safe.
Using them does not imply that you prefer to have sex with a certain body part or that you are unable to have intercourse with the whole lady; they are just toys for engaging in healthy adult sex play. Exploration and enjoyment of your fantasies to the best extent possible—at the very least, you’ll be exposed to a novel feeling on your penis when you’re masturbating.
Sensation and S/M toys bring your pleasure/pain dreams to life in a far more realistic manner.
When playing alone with pain, bondage, electricity, asphyxiation, or any other toy that causes extreme feelings, employ care and common sense to ensure that you don’t hurt yourself. Little clamps and clips may be used safely to increase the intensity of pinching sensations; however, bear in mind that they hurt much more when they are removed since the blood rushes back to the region that had been clamped. Purchasing these products from a sex toy or S/M shop, a hardware store, or a stationery store is possible.
Test them out on the sensitive skin of your arm before you purchase them since appearances may be misleading and they can hurt much more than they seem. Make certain that the ends of your clips are covered in rubber and that you do not purchase any that have teeth.
It is possible to use clips and clamps on the fleshy regions of the body, including the breasts, nipples, stomach, thighs, labia, skin of the penis and testicles, and even the lips and earlobes! Application of your clips should be done in accordance with your dream scenario, but they should not be left on for longer than your masturbating session.
Some S/M situations are difficult to recreate and might be harmful to do so. It is possible to flog oneself, but it is not suggested that you place yourself in bondage (i.e. handcuffs, ropes, shackles, silk scarves, and the like). Attempting asphyxiation, although not uncommon as a desire, is exceedingly risky, particularly when done alone, and may be deadly in the majority of cases.
Electrical play gives a lot of possibility for error—even deadly error—and should only be performed by persons who are familiar with electricity, or who have learnt from someone who is an expert in electricity and S/M. Blindfolds are OK as long as you are certain that you will be secure without being able to see.
Get out of your old habits and learn some new ones.
It is possible to have a fantasy that works for you when you view a picture, watch a movie, read a narrative, or have an idea that truly turns you on—for example, moist panties or hardening cock—but it is not always possible. You may learn to mine your masturbatory fantasies for arousal tools by following these instructions. Take a minute to think back on your most recent masturbation experience. What made you feel good?
What were you thinking at the time? Did you have a scenario in mind, or an image in your thoughts, as you went inside the room? Were you engrossed in a steamy porn video? For the time being, don’t be concerned about whether the thought or picture is “good,” “poor,” or inappropriate; you are just using your sensual imagination as a tool. Consider how it all began, the buildup, and what brought you to this point.
Your orgasm was most likely triggered by an idea, followed by pictures or action that increased in some manner, then reached a crescendo that corresponded with orgasm. Consider the beginning of your masturbation session, the onset and the buildup—this is how you get yourself on during a masturbation session.
Masturbation as a fantasy
Reliving the experience may help you better control or enhance your arousal. Digging into what turned you on most recently is a strategy for getting aroused again, and reliving the experience can help you better control or heighten your arousal. Allow yourself to get as aroused as you can stand, and notice what visions occur as you approach climax.
Take your time masturbating and go as slowly as you can to improve, intensify, and repeat your orgasms, as well as to explore numerous orgasms—including, for males, orgasm without ejaculation. Allow yourself to reach the pinnacles of arousal, but don’t allow yourself to go over the edge—delay the inevitable as long as possible. Tantra practitioners employ slow sexual practices and focused breathing to build up to tremendous orgasms. Men may learn to push themselves to the brink of orgasm and then back off using the “squeeze” method, ultimately learning to experience numerous orgasms, i.e. without ejaculation.
The Squeeze Technique is a useful tool for men.
You don’t need to use those possibly harmful—and questionably effective—”delay” lotions or sprays if you utilize the squeeze method to prevent yourself from coming before you or your partner are ready. Place your hand at the tip of the penis with the thumb on the underside, or frenulum, and the fingers on top, on the coronal ridge, to do the squeeze.
Stop everything—especially any fantasies—and squeeze for three or four seconds when you’re near enough. Experiment to see how you react. Some men find that squeezing at the base works best, while others find that tugging their balls down, away from the body, works just as well. Pick up a copy of Mantak Chia and Douglas Abrams’ The Multi-Orgasmic Man to learn more about orgasm strategies for guys.
Using your newfound ability to conjure up scenarios that drive you on, you may teach yourself new sexual practices while having a lot of fun.
When you use arousal, masturbation, and imagination tactics, you may have an orgasm during partnered sex or from something you don’t typically orgasm from, such as oral or anal sex. It’s a long process, but it’s definitely worth it.
Start thinking about incorporating a new technique into your sex life, such as deep throating or vaginal fisting, while you’re masturbating. Learn as much as you can about the new activity if you’re frightened or terrified. Read about it or view an instructional adult film— “Resources,” has resources and suggestions. On your own time, investigate an aspect that intrigues you (a whole hand would be hot) or makes you nervous (doesn’t it hurt?).
Your Vibrator is a useful tool for women.
Ladies who regularly use vibrators for masturbation bring their trusted companion with them on their fantasy adventures, but women who have never used a vibe may want to give it a try. Vibrators, often known as massagers, are useful instruments for determining your level of arousal. Many women, even those who have previously struggled to attain orgasm, discover that vibrators provide them with simple arousal and consistent orgasms.
Choose a vibrator that appeals to you and set aside time to use your new toy without interruptions or distractions. Begin with vibrating your inner thighs and gradually work your way up to your genitals. Experiment with different pressures and speeds. Add your vibrator to your single fantasy adventures after a few sessions of delightful exploration—and double your enjoyment!
Using similar strategies as before, fantasy is the most efficient strategy to conquer masturbation behaviors you detest or wish to modify. Let’s say you generally climax softly when masturbating on your stomach, but you’d want to learn to orgasm loudly while lying on your back with your legs apart. You could want to orgasm with penetration, or you might want to switch up a fetish like masturbation with certain shoes. The shoes will always turn you on, but you can educate yourself to appreciate other sexual practices as well, diversifying your sex life and making it more active.
Begin by getting aroused in the ways that are most comfortable for you, and then use your tried-and-true masturbation techniques to bring yourself to the brink of orgasm. Consider which components of the new activity turn you on the most—if it’s anal sex, is it the novel notion of anal stimulation itself, or is it the fact that it’s a “dirty” thing to do? Continue to masturbate and fantasize about the new action, allowing yourself to climax while the hot fantasy—of you acting out the new behavior—runs through your mind. Repeat the technique until you’re ready to take your masturbation to the next level, which might take a few sessions.
Anal Masturbation’s Golden Rules
• Before attempting anal penetration, make sure you’re turned on.
• Take it gently. Slowly, slowly, slowly
• Masturbate as you penetrate. • Use a lot of lubrication. • Tease yourself with massage or vibration on the outside initially.
• Never put anything harmful in your ass.
• Slow down, apply lubrication, or switch activities if it aches.
If you’re feeling really daring, pair your fantasies with sex items that can replicate sensation—such as a butt plug for anal intercourse or a dildo for fellatio—or watch porn that vividly shows the dream sex act you want to undertake.
Toys can assist you in exploring anal sensation and defining the difference between comfort and discomfort. Masturbating while playing with toys allows your body to trust the feeling while being in perfect control. Insert fingers with clipped nails and lots of water-based lubrication, or play with smooth, indestructible toys with a base so they don’t slide inside. Because the anus tissue is delicate, nothing rough or sharp should be placed.
Gradually, you’ll get more at ease—and turned on—by the prospect of putting your dream into action in real life, which may lead to some sizzling meetings.
If you want to learn how to deep-throat a penis with imagination and masturbation, as in anal play, practice on a dildo as many times as you need to feel comfortable before trying it on a real, live person.
Choose a dildo with a flared end to make it easier to hold—never use anything that might fall from your hands or shatter in your throat (no bananas or cucumbers). As you get yourself worked up with masturbation and your sexiest dreams (ideally ones that contain fellatio), practice breathing around the dildo and working through your gag reflex. Deep-throating needs skill and patience, much like anal sex.
You may utilize the strategies above to bring your arousal in sync with your partner’s during partnered sex, as well as while providing or receiving oral sex. You don’t have to daydream about what you’re doing while you’re doing it—being turned on by the concept of what you’re doing is helpful, but odds are this isn’t your top fantasy right now.
What turns you on the most is what gets you fired up and ready for climax, so daydream about what makes you hot. Come up with a dream that works for you, and blend it with the stimulation your partner is providing.
The thought of daydreaming during partnered sex makes some individuals extremely uncomfortable. It’s easy to believe you’re being deceptive when you’re having sex with your darling and your mind is elsewhere—but you’re not. You’re right there with them, they’re stimulating you, and you’re doing a fantastic job of keeping your end of the deal by turning on in the ways that suit you best so you can share your enjoyment with them.
You’re not doing anything wrong; in fact, you’re doing exactly what everyone else does when they have an orgasm, whether with or without a partner: you’re utilizing imagination to increase arousal, deepen the sensation, and add diversity to your sex life. A fantasy is just anything that works for you, whether it’s a memory or a concept, and imagining during sexual activity is your way of bringing it into your current relationship.