How to Set Dates
In this Part, I’d like to discuss the first two phases of Mystery’s M3 Model, which are the first and second steps of the M3 Model. These two sections describe the most critical elements in the seduction process, including effectively initiating an encounter.
Nobody cares how excellent you are in bed, how good you are at talking, or what a wonderful partner or spouse you would be if you don’t know how to properly initiate an encounter.
Fortunately, if you follow a few basic guidelines, starting a conversation becomes much easier. Personally, I adhere to these recommendations, and I am certain that they will be effective for you as well.
Tip #1: Keep an eye out for telltale signals of selection.
It is critical to recognize that women are the ones who make the choices. As a result, it is critical to remain focused on your objective and purpose at all times, no matter what. Nothing more than being your most authentic self is required.
Consider the following scenarios as examples of clear selection indicators: Does a lady seem to be looking at you? She seems to be looking at you with a kind smile. What happens if you catch her staring in your direction for the first time and then she looks away? It should be evident that someone is interested in what you’re saying. Approach her right away and introduce yourself.
#2: Be on the lookout for less visible signals of selection.
When a lady unintentionally enters your orbit, this is one of the most common. While gazing in another direction, she may come into your line of sight, or she may seem to be lost, puzzled and so on.
Does she seem to be gazing in your direction, but she refuses to make actual eye contact with you? if you do establish eye contact with her, she may glance away nervously to the ground.
Her hair may be in play, and the gap between her thumb and index finger may be scratched. The signals of female attraction described here are old and physiologically formed.
Immediately after this occurs, go to the following point:
Use the three-second rule as a guideline for making decisions. Within three seconds of seeing a beautiful lady and deciding that you want to see whether she’s worth your time, you should approach her and introduce yourself. Otherwise, she should be put out of your mind..
The reason for three seconds is because it is necessary.
Because if it takes you longer than three seconds to approach her, it suggests you’re still trying to get up the courage to approach her in the first place! Moreover, women have a kind of “spider sense” that alerts them when you’re getting up the courage to approach them, which puts them on the defensive and communicates to them that you are not a confident man who is used to being around beautiful women, which effectively eliminates your chances of having a successful interaction with them.
In order to reach her, you must do it before the three seconds have elapsed.
The last point is that
#4: Avoid making it become an interview situation.
Answering her queries is just part of the job. Offer humorous responses to break the ice, make her feel comfortable with you, and prepare her for a more in-depth talk later on in the evening
Also, if you need to ask her a few questions, go ahead and do so, but don’t limit yourself to “small talk” queries such as “where do you live” and “what is your occupation.”
Instead, ask her questions to discover what you have in common with her. It is easier to go through the M3 Model’s phases if you have a common ground on which to build upon.
Exceptional Demonstrations of Significant Importance
After meeting a growing number of female acquaintances, you’ll discover that, if you want them to consider you more than “just another man,” you must somehow distinguish yourself from other males.
Demonstrations of Higher Value, also known as DHVs, are used to accomplish this goal.
The following DHVs will cause women to immediately recognize you as “special” to them:
Popularity
Wealth
The responsibility of becoming a man’s leader
To be completely self-sufficient (also known as “outcome independence”) is to be completely free of dependency.
Making a strong impression as a provider and protector
confidence while teasing her
Etc., a display of pure intellect
Who are you, and what is your DHV.
The use of fictitious time constraints and obtaining her phone number
When it comes to women, one of the most common mistakes guys make is “overstaying their welcome.” They continue to talk for an extended period of time, and she begins to wonder when in the world they will finally leave her alone again. That is a mistake you should avoid!
Using a strategy known as “False Time Constraints” to get her phone number is the easiest approach to avoid making this error.
It is possible to be pushed for time without really being pressed, which is known as “False Time Constraints.” Take, for example, when you tell a woman: “You’re rather intriguing.” Would love to continue talking if I didn’t have to go immediately now. Do you mind giving me your telephone number?”
“I’m sorry, but I won’t be able to stay much longer, so please allow me to ask for your phone number.”
The use of “false time constraints” such as “I have to go back to my buddies in a minute, therefore you have to give me your number immediately” is prohibited. It has the same impact on both men and women: it increases the likelihood that a lady will provide you with her phone number significantly.
Take a look at the three lines above and compare them to a basic “Can I have your number?” and you’ll realize how effective False Time Constraints are at helping you achieve what you want from women and other people in general.
Rarely do you come across a woman of beauty by herself.
The majority of the time, if a lady is beautiful, she will travel in a group. Depending on the situation, this might be a group of other females or a mixed group of males and females. If you want to meet gorgeous women, you’ll need to understand how you may approach them and convince them to welcome you into their circle.
Back in my university days, I recall a man who could go up to a bunch of people and have everyone bursting out laughing in seconds. I made the decision to listen in on his approaches in order to uncover his secret.
In the process of realizing he was spouting pure bull about his breakfast, or what he watched on Animal Planet the other day, etc., I concluded he was talking absolute garbage. His confidence and kindness, on the other hand, led to his acceptance into a large number of new organizations.
What’s the takeaway from all this? Nothing you say matters. It’s all in the delivery.
There are four steps to “opening” a group, which are outlined below.
1. Approach the other members of the group first, rather than just approaching the lady you wish to meet.
Initiate the conversation either directly (e.g. “So, how did you guys get to know each other?”) or indirectly (e.g. “Hey guys, could you give me a minute?”) “) “I’m looking for your thoughts on something.” Bring your imagination to the table!
#2: When the lady you desire comes into a discussion you’re having with another member of the group, tell her:
“I’ll get back to you in a bit.?” and then turn back to the person you’re talking to and ask something like: “Is she usually like this?” Aiming to decrease the defenses of both your target and others around you while without making it apparent that you are interested in her is the goal of this technique. Consequently, after you have been welcomed by the group, it will be much simpler to isolate your target and make your move later on.
#3: Then you chat to the lady you’re interested in with the other men.
Say something amusing and taunting, such as, “I don’t believe you and I will get along; you’re much too pleasant.”
Create something new.
Alternatively, you may say: “You’re attractive, but I like females that have a good sense of humor, a pleasant demeanor, and a smidgeon of brains. At this point, you have two out of three, which is satisfactory.”
The objective is not to be cruel, but to flirt while subtly communicating that you are not desperate for her and that you are in command of the situation. You’re also a pleasant man who doesn’t take himself too seriously, and you don’t try to win her favor the way most men do. She’ll be regarded as a feminist icon by the vast majority of guys. Your character distinguishes you from the majority of males.
4. Once you’ve gotten her warmed up sufficiently, ask the group if you can borrow her for a moment.
“I guarantee you that we’ll be right here. When you have her attention, you may either arrange up a later time for a one-on-one date or at the very least ask for her phone number.
Calling at the Appropriate Time and for What Reason
This is the thing: there isn’t any set guideline for how long you should wait before phoning a lady once she has given you her phone number. It is entirely reliant on how well your first encounter with her went that you would know when to contact her back.
She seemed to be really interested in you, didn’t she? You may then contact her whenever you want for up to two days. Were you able to see she wasn’t overjoyed? If this is the case, you may need to contact her immediately, maybe the following morning.
The most important thing is to maintain momentum.
Learn how to properly schedule dates so that she will adhere to them.
The term “flaking” refers to a difficulty that many people encounter during dating. A substantial probability exists that the woman you meet may “flake” on your date, either by canceling the meeting or by failing to show up at all. If you don’t plan your dates correctly, you will encounter this problem often. I don’t like it at all.
Following are some tips on how to set up dates effectively so that the ladies you meet will actually go on them!
“Can you tell me when you’re available?” says the first step. Once you’ve decided on a time to meet with her, schedule it. This method is effective because she chooses the date with you, rather than you setting everything up and expecting her to conform with your wishes and expectations.
The second rule is to only go on dates with women who are enthusiastic about meeting you.
You must keep in mind that you are the reward. This will probably not be worth your time if you are more interested in seeing her than she is in seeing you.
“Perhaps” should never be accepted. If she is unsure about meeting up with you, tell her: “It seems that you are unsure about meeting up with us. ” You only have to let me know when you will be available.”
Depending on her response, she will either agree: “Yup, I’ll let you know,” which indicates that she is not very interested and that you should not be as well, or she will alter her mind: “No problem. Friday works well for me. Really.”
Some years ago, I had a girl crush on her, and she reminded me of her today. The two of us had previously gone on two dates, and I was putting the finishing touches on a third, which would take place on a Saturday and include me driving to her house and cooking supper for her. “You seem to be uncertain,” I told her when she expressed a lack of enthusiasm about the situation. After that, I think we’ll try again another time.”
She changed her mind a couple of days later. And so that Saturday night, we spent it together in her house, and let’s just say the oven wasn’t the only thing to become quite warm.
“Call back to verify” should never be used. You shouldn’t be offended if she asks you to phone her on the day of the date (or the day before) to double-check that she can make it.
Change the date instead: “I think you’re not very sure about Friday.” To be on the safe side, please let me know when you will be available.”
5. Decide on an appropriate time, day, and location.
6. Inform her of the location and time of the meeting and then wait for her to agree. “Awesome. 7:00 PM on Saturday outside Green Park Station In the event that anything arises, please contact me; otherwise, I’ll see you later.”
She will come visit you if she really wants to. Unless she meets those requirements, she is unlikely to be a worthwhile investment of your time.
