Feeling suffocated? Take Control of Your Life by Doing These 20 Things

Feeling suffocated? Take Control of Your Life by Doing These 20 Things

Are you content with your life or do you feel enslaved? Many people are disappointed or disappointed with their lives, and all of them believe they have no influence over what occurs in their lives. You, on the other hand, have the ability to transform your own life for the better by using your mind and behavior.

Feeling stuck can mean remaining in an unhealthy relationship, being unable to move due to a lack of money, or staying in a certain city because it is where your career is located. Many facets of life can make us feel enslaved, but there are still ways to change our condition and reclaim power or independence.

Here are nine ways to reclaim your life and achieve peace.

1. Maintain a Budget-Friendly Lifestyle

Living beyond the means is one of the most stressful places to survive. Many people invest more than they raise and worry about their financial status on a regular basis. It’s necessary to reward yourself, but the reward shouldn’t be too costly.

Consider the following questions:

What am I really in need of in order to survive?
Is this something I need or something I want?
Is it going to get me happiness?

When you’re trying to come up with a monthly budget, try to concentrate on investing more money on activities rather than on things. The encounters (a short vacation, a spontaneous date night, etc.) will help you create memories, while the things will only provide you with a temporary feeling of fulfillment.

Recognize your power and accept responsibility for it.
Many people blame others and the outside world for their problems, but the fact is that you have complete power of many facets of your life. Just you have the power to change the aspects of your life that make you miserable.

Take care of your condition by finding a YouTube channel with some fitness videos you love if you want to exercise more but don’t have the resources to go to the gym. This isn’t the ideal option, so it’ll tide you over before you can afford a gym card.

Look for a New Job
Your career does not have to be the most enjoyable aspect of your life, so if you despise going to work, you can look for another job[1]. This is how you spend 40 hours a week, and if you want to feel free, your career can be more than just a way to pay the bills.

Consider the following questions:

What would I do to make my work better?

What kind of work am I looking for?

Do I need to work on my skills in order to pursue my ideal job?

If your career isn’t giving you pleasure but you can’t quit right now, consider volunteering in an environment that you’re passionate about. In the meantime, you can brush up on your skills by taking some free online classes, which can help you land your dream work when it comes around.

Recognize that life reacts to your actions.
Make sure you’re looking at an optimistic perspective of the future and your attitude affects how you see the world. Your mind has the ability to either make you see life in a dark light or to bring positivity into each day. As Rumi once put it,

“What you’re looking for is looking for you.”

Seek out what you want to do in life while trusting that your ideal life is waiting for you. This will aid in maintaining a sense of peace and positivity, making the journey that much smoother.

Take Control of Your Life by Doing These 20 Things

Begin living a healthy lifestyle today.
When their bodies stop functioning the way they want them to, many people feel stuck. Maybe they don’t have as much stamina as they used to or can’t afford to sleep through the night.

Respect your body by drinking plenty of water, eating plenty of fruits and vegetables, exercising regularly, and having a good 8 hours of sleep each night. Both of these things would make you feel more positive and proactive.

Follow Your Dreams
You know yourself better than anyone else, because you know where you want to go in your life. And if your career does not allow you to pursue your passions, you can always bring them into your life.

Perhaps you have a passion for painting but have chosen to pursue a career in accounting. You can go to work at the bank during the day, then when you get home, sit in front of a canvas for an hour and let your creativity flow. You may also discover that you have enough parts to start a side company.

Honesty and the ability to say no
Being willing to say no to someone is an important aspect of getting self-respect. While it is rewarding to assist others, it is important that you should not become a pushover if you are stuck. When you really want to support others, say yes, but don’t put your own life on hold.

You will still be trapped and reluctant to step on with your own aspirations if you load your life with other people’s obligations. Before you say yes to each proposal, think about whether it will help you get closer to your life’s goal.

Social Norms Must Be Abandoned
Many people live their lives according to social norms or family expectations because they think it is the best option, but they are disappointed because they feel stuck within these norms. Instead of doing what you think you should be doing depending on what you see on social media, take control of your life by doing whatever makes you happy.

It’s okay if any of your closest friends and family members don’t get your life’s path. You’ll eventually meet people who share your perspective, allowing you to make yet more constructive interactions and extend your circle of friends.

How to Overcome The Fear of Failure
If you think doing something will make you happier, go ahead and do it—don’t let fear of disappointment stop you. Fear can be a cage that keeps you bound and prevents you from seeking peace, so take a gamble and see what happens without overthinking it.

For more information about how to conquer the fear of disappointment, read this post.

Final Thoughts
If you’re stranded, it might seem as if you’ll be stuck in the same spot for the rest of your life. Fortunately, you can restore a sense of power and independence in your life while still improving your mental wellbeing by taking actionable actions. Determine which aspect of your life is keeping you back the most and take one of the steps above to address it.

If it doesn’t succeed, it may be time to get specialist assistance to help you solve your difficulties. If that’s the case, do it with an open mind and see it as a chance to change your life.

“Rather, it is the few, sometimes unforeseen pleasures of life that will make us happy every day, allowing us to create healthier and more fulfilling lives for ourselves and others.”

Check out these  little things that gave us real pleasure in our everyday lives.


1. Discovering money in your purse that you weren’t aware of.


2. Being asked how you’re doing by someone who cares.


3. Climbing into bed with freshly laundered covers.

4. If you have any spare time, take a long bath or shower.

5. Smiling at a child you pass in the street.

6. Getting a 10-minute massage from a friend or girlfriend.

7. Cuddling with somebody before getting up and starting your day.


8. Remembering it’s a sunny, gorgeous day when you wake up.


9. Being on the phone with someone you care for that you haven’t talked to in a long time.


10. Sitting on the couch and watching the rain fall because you have nowhere to go.


11. Seeing children smiling and playing together reminds you of how happy the future will be.


12. Spending time with your dogs – or any creatures for that matter!

13. A sincere greeting from a stranger.

14. Getting your body going with a short, long stretch when you first wake up.


15. Laughing aloud at a humorous recollection.


16. A kind act by someone in your life, such as your child assisting you in the kitchen.


17. A scent you like, such as freshly baked bread or a freshly mowed grass.


18. A long and satisfying embrace from someone you care for.


19. Donning shirts that have been dried on the heater.


When things are hectic, take a few minutes to yourself.


21. Seeing the sunrise or sunset.

23. Listening to a song or musician that you like.

24. Getting a letter or email from a friend.


25. The opportunity to be artistic, whether it’s painting an old chest of drawers or doodling a drawing.


26. Walking hand-in-hand with someone you care for.


27. Getting up and eating breakfast in bed.


28. Playing a game that you used to enjoy as a child.


29. Eating nutritious, delicious foods that make you feel good for yourself.


30. An full half-hour in bed to snooze.

Life is made up of 10% of what happens to you and 90% of how you react to it. Swindoll, Charles R.
The most of us feel powerless in our daily lives.
Our days are packed with tasks we have to do, while our fantasies are full of things we think we won’t be able to do. The majority of our actions are dictated by social and financial commitments, while the rest of our decisions are influenced by anxiety.

Life becomes a sequence of events that occur in our lives.

It doesn’t have to be that way, though. You will solve the anxieties and overcome the social barriers that are holding you down in a systemic manner. You have the ability to reclaim power. It is possible for you to have control of your destiny. Here’s how to do it.

At least once a week, do something terrifying.
Fear prevents us from pursuing our goals in life all too much. Fear becomes inured to you when you make it a ritual to face your fears. Then you begin to break free from the self-imposed limitations that fear imposes.

Put capital aside.
There are a few cool things that can happen when you have any extra cash. You should afford to treat yourself to something good once in a while without feeling guilty. A significant amount of tension in your life is relieved. Although, perhaps most notably, when you live beyond your means, you are no longer obligated to make life decisions solely for the sake of increasing your income; instead, you may prioritize other factors such as work-life balance or pursuing your interests.

However, don’t want to save money by skipping a cup of coffee or, God forbid, avocado toast every day. Setting up a savings account and setting up an automatic switch from your bank account to that savings account every payday is the simplest and most convenient way to save money. When you don’t see the money in the first place, you won’t even know it’s gone.

Limit the intake of caffeine and alcohol.
Both have their benefits: alcohol is good for calming and socializing, and caffeine is good for staying up in the mornings. However, the majority of those that drink them do so in excess. Try halving your consumption; you’ll most likely reap the same, if not greater, benefits. And better, you’ll no longer be dependent on caffeine and alcohol to feel nice.

Rather than owning a home, you can rent it.
Renting has a number of benefits over purchasing a home. You know exactly how much it costs per month, and you’re not responsible for any unforeseen repair or maintenance costs. You have even more flexibility than a landlord when it comes to moving. Rather than holding a single asset worth 500 percent of your net worth, diversify your portfolios.
In the end, when you buy a house, you often own a collection of responsibilities.

Spend less time on social media.
By far the most common way for people to spend time when they should be doing something else is by social media. Worse, it’s hardly enjoyable—social media has devolved into a cesspool of meaningless debates, toxic social comparison, and meticulous picture control.
Social networking is a great way to stay in contact with friends and schedule parties, but you shouldn’t spend too much time online. Once a day, check Facebook and reflect on your daily life.

Begin a side job
Having a second source of revenue has the same advantages as saving money: less burden and greater financial independence. But it gets better: there’s no limit on how much money you can earn from a side company, and you know that if you do lose your job—or leave it—you’ll be able to devote more time to it and ramp it up. You’ll have a lot of options as a result.

Create a network.
Maintain contact with people in your field. Join us at gatherings where you can meet new people. Don’t care about what you’ll get out of it right now; instead, focus on providing meaning to others. You’ll use your network at some point, and it’s crucial to start building it now, before you need it.

Once a week, Fast

Once a week, fast for 24 hours without eating anything. This is a simple way to shed weight and it halves the amount of time you spend consuming each week by 6/7. Although, most importantly, you change your connection with food by learning to resist hunger. Eating becomes an option rather than what you have to do when you’re starving.

Make a daily to-do list that isn’t too long.
There should be no more than three things, and the less the better. Many of the world’s most ambitious individuals only have one large to-do list every day. Concentrate on the most critical tasks to avoid cramming busywork into the day.
 Exclude things from your life.

Objects you don’t need should be discarded. Stop doing things that aren’t beneficial to your wellbeing. Stop spending time with people you don’t like being with. Make space in your life for the things that matter to you, not only in terms of time, but also in terms of physical and emotional energy.

Switch up your look.
The head of my major program in college sent me one of the best bits of advice I’ve ever got. She advised my class to dress professionally for all presentations, including phone interviews. Your appearance is an external reflection of your self-esteem. When you change your wardrobe, you alter your behavior and even your perception of yourself. Dress in the manner of the guy you wish to be.

 Make new acquaintances

Meet new people who share some of your interests, particularly those that none of your current friends share. Finding events on local news pages, Facebook, or Meetup.com will help with this.

So many people believe they can’t do stuff their peers don’t want or that they must do things so someone else does. Your social network becomes a source of opportunity rather than restraint until you realize you have the potential to meet new friends.

Take a solo vacation.
Choose a region of the world you’d like to see, or even a region of your own country, and spend at least a week enjoying it alone. This is not only entertaining, but it also instills a feeling of independence that will last the rest of your life.
20. See it as a decision.

Stop telling yourself you can’t do anything unless it’s physically impractical. Instead, tell you won’t, or that you’re too busy, or that you’re not ready to put in the effort.

When we say can’t all the time, we’re teaching ourselves to ignore any course of action that isn’t plain and easy. By excluding the word from your vocabulary, you’ll teach yourself to care about whether anything is plausible rather than dismissing it out of hand.