Why Do We Need Self-Esteem?

Our capacity to think is critical to our survival and well-being. The second point to make is that the proper use of our awareness is not automatic, and it is not “hardwired” into us by nature. There is a critical element of choice — and, as a result, of personal accountability — in the organization’s regulatory framework.

 

 

The Mind Is The Most Important Tool For Survival

We rely on the guidance of our distinctive form of consciousness, the form that is uniquely human, our conceptual faculty — the faculty of abstraction, generalization, and integration — for our survival and well-being, just as we do for the survival and well-being of every other species capable of awareness.

 

 

 

This kind of awareness is what I refer to as “mind,” according to my definition. Its core is our capacity to reason, which is synonymous with our ability to understand interpersonal interactions. Our life and well-being are dependent on our ability to train our thoughts in the optimal manner.

 

 

 

 

 

 

Mind is more than just immediate, explicit knowledge of one’s surroundings. Architecture of structures and processes is used to describe this system. It encompasses more than just the linguistic, linear, and analytic functions that are often (and sometimes inaccurately) referred to as “left-brain” activity. It encompasses the whole of one’s mental life, including the subconscious, the intuitive, the symbolic, and everything else that is often referred to as the “right brain,” as well. The mind is everything that allows us to reach out to and grasp the rest of the world. Considering the Process of Thought

 

 

 

 

 

 

A process of thought is required in order to learn how to grow food, build a bridge, harness electricity, grasp the healing potential of a substance, allocate resources in such a way that productivity is maximized, see wealth-producing opportunities where they had not previously been seen, conduct a scientific experiment, and create something new. 

 

 

 

 

 

 

We must engage in an intellectual process in order to respond appropriately to the complaints of our children or spouses, to recognize that there is a disconnect between our actions and our professed feelings, and in order to discover how to deal with hurt and anger in ways that will heal rather than destroy our relationships.

 

 

 

 

A process of thought, a process of rational connection, is required even to recognize when it is appropriate to abandon conscious efforts at problem-solving and delegate the task to the subconscious, when it is appropriate to allow conscious thinking to pause, and when it is appropriate to pay more attention to feelings or intuition (subconscious perceptions or integrations).

 

 

To Think or Not to Think: That Is the Question

The difficulty and the challenge is that, despite the fact that thinking is a must for a successful life, we are not programmed to think in a logical and automatic manner. We have a choice between two options.

 

 

 

Neither we nor our hearts, lungs, livers, nor kidneys are in charge of managing their activity. They are all a component of the body’s self-regulating mechanism (although we are starting to realize that humans may be able to exert some control over some of these functions). We are also under no need to monitor the homeostatic mechanisms that, for example, keep the temperature at a more or less consistent level. 

 

 

 

 

 

Nature has created our bodies’ organs and systems to perform automatically in the service of our lives, without the need for us to actively participate in their operation. Our thoughts, on the other hand, work in a different way.

 

 

 

 

 

Our brains do not pump information in the same way that our hearts pump blood, but rather as and as required. Even when it is obvious that a better knowledge would be helpful, our thoughts do not automatically direct us to act on our best, most reasonable, and informed understanding. We do not begin to think “instinctively” just because non-thinking has become detrimental to us in a particular situation.

 

 

 

 

 

 

When confronted with something new and unexpected, consciousness does not always “reflexively” expand; instead, it might occasionally compress.
Nature has entrusted us with an unusual responsibility: the ability to adjust the brightness of the searchlight of awareness to our liking. 

 

 

 

 

 

This is the choice between seeking consciousness or not bothering to seek it or purposefully avoiding it; it is the choice between thinking or not thinking, and it is the choice between thinking or not thinking. Herein lies both the source of our freedom and the source of our obligation.

 

 

 

We have the ability to make sensible or irrational decisions.

We are the only species capable of formulating a vision of what values are worth pursuing — and then seeking the polar opposite of that vision of values. We may determine that a certain course of action is reasonable, moral, and smart — and then suspend consciousness and go about our business as if nothing had happened. We have the ability to observe our own conduct and determine if it is compatible with our knowledge, values, and aspirations — and we also have the ability to avoid asking that question. 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

The choice between thinking and not thinking.

If I have reason to believe that alcohol is harmful to me but yet consume it, I must first turn off the light of awareness in order to avoid harming myself. To take a sniff of cocaine despite the fact that I am aware that cocaine has lost me my past three jobs, I must first block out all of my previous knowledge, refuse to see what I see and refuse to understand what I understand. 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

That I am in a relationship that is harmful to my dignity, disastrous to my self-esteem, and perilous to my physical well-being is something I have recognized for a long time. If I want to remain in it, I will have to drown my awareness, muddle my brain, and become myself functionally dumb in order to stay there. Self-destruction is an act that should be carried out in complete darkness.

 

 

Our Decisions Have an Impact on Our Self-Esteem

The decisions we make about the operations of our awareness have significant repercussions for our life in general and our self-esteem in particular. We must make these decisions with great care. Please consider the implications of the following alternatives on our daily life and our sense of self:

 

Trying to concentrate vs not trying to concentrate.
The difference between thinking and not thinking
The difference between awareness and unawareness.
Clarity is preferred above obfuscation or ambiguity.
Avoidance of reality is preferable than respect for reality.
The contrast between respect for facts and apathy to facts.
Rather than rejecting truth, one should respect it.

 

 

Perseverance in the endeavor to comprehend as opposed to abandonment of the effort to comprehend.
When it comes to integrity, the choice is between acting in accordance with our stated principles and acting in disloyalty.
Dishonesty with oneself is preferable than honesty with others.
Confrontation with oneself against avoidance of oneself
The ability to be open to new information as opposed to being closed-minded.
The ability to recognize and fix mistakes as opposed to the willingness to persist in wrong.
Consciousness of congruence as opposed to a disdain for contradictions
Reason against irrationalism; adherence to logic, consistency, coherence, and evidence versus disrespect or defiance of these principles;

 

 

Loyalty to one’s own duty for consciousness versus betrayal of one’s own responsibility for consciousness
It is recommended that you start with this list if you want to learn more about the roots of real self-esteem.
No one could legitimately say that our perception of our ability to deal with the challenges of life, or our feeling of our goodness, would be unaffected by the pattern of our decisions in relation to the possibilities listed above over time.

 

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The issue is not that our self-esteem “should” be influenced by the decisions we make, but rather that it “must” be affected because of our inherent natures as human beings. The suggestion that we “should” continue feeling equally as efficient and worthwhile as we would if our choices had been better is illogical if we have developed habit patterns that cripple or incapacitate us from doing our daily tasks effectively and that lead us to doubt ourselves.

 

 

 

 The implication would be that our activities have no relationship to how we feel about ourselves or should have no relationship with how we feel about ourselves. A warning against identifying with a certain conduct is one thing; asserting that there should be no relationship between one’s own self-assessment and one’s own behavior is another.

 

 

When individuals are fed “feel good” conceptions of self-esteem that are divorced from questions of awareness, responsibility, or moral choice, they are doing themselves a harm.
What produces conflict is the fact that humans have choices like the ones I’ve described, that we are presented with possibilities that have never been experienced before in nature, and that we are the only species capable of betraying and acting against our own means of existence.