When she says Maybe, does it mean No?
Maybe is a word we use much too often these days.
And do you have a general idea of what it means? It doesn’t necessarily imply that we’re undecided and are mulling a more clear response. It usually indicates “no.”
We’re hedging our bets and waiting for something better to appear… which suggests we’re not very interested in the person or object in question. It’s only useful as a fallback or backup, and as a method to avoid having to answer No straight away.
So, to be honest Maybe is merely a method to avoid saying No. When we apply this fact to the ladies we desire and the Friendzone, it becomes a really powerful tool for transformation and comprehending what you’ve gotten yourself into.
Internalizing “maybe is a no” is one way to avoid the Friendzone and the inevitable waiting game that follows.
Friendzoned guys, like death row inmates, keep hoping without hope that this lady would eventually recognize how terrific they are and develop sexual attraction to them. They consider themselves to be a group of Maybes.
Many men believe in similarly bankrupt and implausible romantic fairy tales of conquering the Friendzone, just as many women believe in romantic fairy tales of getting swept off their feet.
They invest their feelings and their lives in her.
They elevate her emotional status and pamper her as if she were a monarch. She tramps all over them and, at the end of it, rides out into the sunset, a jerk clutched in her arms. The man’s heart is crushed, and he goes on to do the same thing with the next lady. She’ll treat him the same way she treats him.
And these guys refuse to learn because they don’t realize her Maybes are really Nos.
Don’t make the mistake of becoming a Maybe.
This legislation is obnoxious in its simplicity. If you ask someone out and they don’t respond with a loud “yes” in any way… What’s the point? It’s as simple as that.
Why would you want to date someone who isn’t enthralled by your presence? That individual should, at the very least, be as enthusiastic about you as you are for them. If you can tell by all of their signals, the words coming out of their mouth, their body language, and their aura that you are a “maybe” for them, then it’s probably time to move on.
She is, without a doubt, attractive. Yes, she is constructed in the manner of a brick home. Yes, she gives you butterflies in your stomach. Yes, when you’re with her, you see all kinds of incredible images. Yes, you believe she is one in a billion (which is incorrect).
But none of it matters if she isn’t sexually attracted to you.
Welcome to the Friendzone, where 99 percent of the males share your feelings.
She’s just a “maybe” when it comes to you, and she hasn’t shown any genuine sexual or romantic interest in you. Why are you making so much effort to pine for her and persuade her otherwise?
You’re more than that, and you’re a greater version of yourself. There are a lot of ladies who would say “YES!!!” if you asked them out. Why should you have to persuade someone to join you?
If you don’t hear a “YES!” from her, don’t waste your time and emotional energy on her. Why would you want to date someone who isn’t as enthusiastic about you as you are? That’s truly all there is to it.
You may avoid taking on unfeasible goals by understanding that Maybe is a No.
Why would you try to persuade someone to be with you if she doesn’t think so? It’s like attempting to erect a massive structure on a large body of water. What’s the matter with that picture? You must construct your structure on bedrock. There must be a firm foundation.
Is this to say that building on water is impossible? Certainly not. What’s more, guess what? You’ll put in a lot of time, effort, and money to make it happen.
You’ll have to get rid of the water. You’ll need to pour concrete for the foundations. You must take care to prevent water from gathering again.
All of this is required only to construct that structure.
Building a relationship with someone you don’t recognize as a definite Yes is the same. You won’t be able to form a bond with that individual. It will require a significant amount of time and work. It isn’t assured, at the end of the day.
Why? Because they are more likely than you to say Yes to someone else.
Hope never dies… However, you should put your faith in something that provides you a better chance and treats you with respect. Why would you want to persuade someone to accompany you?
There are plenty of lovely ladies out there, and many of them will accept your proposal.
Pay special attention to such ladies.
Grey regions should be avoided.
I hope I’m not presenting a dark image here, saying that you have no chance with ladies who don’t say yes when you meet them. Keep in mind, though, that being in the gray zone is not a pleasant experience. To go half as far with these ladies, you have to work twice as hard.
The issue is that you deserve more than to remain in the gray zone. You are entitled to more than pouring your emotional energy and time – your most valuable commodity – into a lady who may or may not be there at the end of the road.
You’re playing the game to lose if you’re in the gray region. Chemistry has an important role in both romantic and sexual interactions. It must, at the very least, be something you can detect and about which you can say more than “maybe.”
Sexual tension must exist. If you don’t feel it right away and in the first instance, your chances are slim. You should probably simply think of her as a friend and concentrate on finding someone to whom you can say Yes (and who will say Yes back).
I haven’t discussed it yet in this chapter, but Yes and the lack of Maybe operate in both directions. You should feel the same way about asking her out, pursuing her, and dating her as you should about asking her out, pursuing her, and dating her.
What’s the purpose if that’s not the case? Just to use her as a stopgap till something better comes along? When you put it that way, it’s evident that Friendzoned guys have been duped by continual Maybes when they aren’t convinced they deserve a Yes in the first place.
“Maybe is a no” may be used in both directions. She must have a comprehensive bundle that makes her worth your time, effort, and energy.
Don’t spend your life on the basis of maybes and half-measures.