The Negative Aspects of Resilience
However, resilience may be abused and exploited against us, making us more vulnerable to illness.
Dismissiveness, high expectations, and pushing people too hard are all examples of how resilience may be misused.
Perseverance and humility, two Native American ideals of ethical living, are essential for building a strong sense of self.
Is there a negative side to tenacity?
There is a possible danger or a shadow aspect to almost everything we undertake. Even the potential dangers of mostly helpful activities such as yoga or having a good attitude (so-called toxic positivity) have made news in the recent past. We can see things more clearly if we are aware of the possible risks. This includes seeing both the shadows and the brightness in everything. According to Disney’s newest film, Encanto, every gift might initially benefit us but can ultimately be detrimental. If you use resilience in an unhealthy manner, there are several disadvantages or hazards to consider.
One of the most common ways to disregard resilience is to use the word “resilience.”
A parent who is having difficulties bearing the pain of a child’s anguish may employ resilience as a wide brush to gloss over the hurts that children experience in the adult world, which may be tough to tolerate. It is dismissive to say, “Oh, but kids are so resilient,” and it may cause inactivity when protection is required.
A person’s resilience may be emphasized by telling them that they are resilient; yet, this might be misconstrued as “You should be able to manage this.” Show us how much you are hurting, but keep it hidden. When sharing a coping characteristic you believe someone else has, identifying particular aspects of resilience such as strong communication, perseverance, or patience may be more effective than general statements.
2. The anticipation of returning to a previous state of existence may be associated with the trait of resilience.
A person’s ability to bounce back or return to a previous condition is defined as having resilience. When this is not feasible, or even likely, you may find yourself stranded in the present, unable to change the course of events.. Suppose you have had a big health setback and are now attempting to recover to your previous state of health. You may find yourself unable to completely embrace the new reality of your position. It might be discouraging for those who wish to maintain their former way of life to undergo rehabilitation.
Our preconceived notions of how things should be might cause us to lose sight of the full range of our available choices and alternatives. A more realistic and more positive perspective may recognize that we exist in a state of constant change throughout our lives and that we can never be completely satisfied with our lives. Acceptance of reality may assist us in continually adapting our thoughts and bodies, even if they are not exactly how we would have wished for them to be at first.
3. Self-judgment that you should be “stronger” than you are may be communicated via resilience.
According to a common fallacy about resilience, if you are unable to change and adapt fast, there is something wrong with you. The expectation that you should be stronger, more resilient, or more anything may not be the helpful self-talk that you need in order to be successful in your endeavors to be resilient. I recognize that this is a contradiction, but it is one that should not be ignored.
Our aspirations of being ever-resilient may get clouded by perfectionism, and we can lose sight of the fact that we are human and may need some flexibility when life throws us a curveball. If resilience becomes just another technique for you to point out where you have fallen short, it is no longer beneficial.. Developing self-awareness and empathy for others can help us navigate through periods of transformation, which do not occur overnight.
4. Employees that are resilient might be encouraged to work harder in the workplace.
The idea that workers would create more and contribute to the bottom line if they get enough assistance may accompany health and resilience training in the workplace. This is true, particularly for organizations that want to retain personnel for the long term. However, it may divert attention away from the more crucial bottom line of supporting people just because they are people, with product and productivity following in second.
Working-place wellness initiatives might come out as disingenuous, emphasizing physical activity and healthy eating but failing to address the underlying concerns that would lead to overall wellness. Furthermore, many workers are left feeling disappointed and burned out since their greater performance has only resulted in ever-increasing productivity demands, despite their improved performance.
In order to be resilient, one must be willing to persevere in the face of adversity.
A healthy connection with resilience acknowledges the fact that humans are, by our nature, always adjusting to change and, as a result, are very resilient. The practice of resilience is something that should be encouraged rather than forced.
According to Joseph Marshall III’s book The Lakota Way, there are 12 key attributes of the Sicangu Lakota Sioux that are essential to live a fulfilling life.
Healthy resilience is characterized by the first two of these characteristics: persistence and humility.
How-wah-chin-tan-gah is a Lakota term that means “perseverance” or “to persevere and endeavor in the face of opposition.” In the Lakota language, unsiiciyapi means “humble, modest, and unpretentious.” It is pronounced “un-shee-ee-cee-yah-pee.” Wishing you all the best as you persevere in what you hold dear.
