Techniques for Men in Courtship

What Should You Discuss ?

The goal of early courting dialogues is to express, both verbally and nonverbally, that this is who I am. I hope you like my company. Tell me about yourself so I can see whether Hike is right for you.

A MAN’S PERSPECTIVE ON DYNAMICS

Backgammon’s initial movements are so important that the game’s fate is frequently determined in less than 30 seconds. In this game, it’s the same. Moments transform into minutes when you do and say the correct things in the crucial opening moments. The longer you maintain touch with her, the simpler it will be for her to perceive that you are secure, then fascinating. She will find you appealing only after that.

 

 

While the talk proceeds, she discreetly checks you out physically after she’s determined you’re not a danger. Two things happen in the following few minutes if you measure up and don’t breach any of the Eleven Commandments of Meeting.
First, she determines whether or not you are a playboy. If you don’t do or say anything to lead her to believe you’re one, the next thing she’ll ponder is what you’d be like if you could convince her.

 

You must unveil yourself in order for her to make a decision. Talk about your likes and dislikes while giving her lots of opportunities to do the same.

 

 

 

STANDARD DISCUSSION

A casual talk during a wedding reception is a traditional courting discussion. The first thing to discuss is how you and she know the newlyweds. You’re the one who goes first and tells her. “Hi. “My name is Don, and I’m a member of Sally’s volleyball team.” “
Help her get through the uncomfortable initial few seconds if she doesn’t reciprocate. Give her something she can readily manage, regardless of how nervous she is. “Do you remember Sally from college?” anything like that.

 

 

 

You should always answer with information about yourself, regardless of what she says.
“Oh, yes? I’ve known Sally for three years, having met her when I joined the team at Hawaiian Antiques alongside Roger, my supervisor. Are you a volleyball player?”
The trick is to tell her about yourself so she can tell you about herself, and then you’ll have something to chat about.

 

 

“Nice reception, terrific band,” you can always remark.
“We’re enjoying some nice weather,” or “We’re having some nice weather.” It’s safe, but it’s not helpful. When your brain freezes, as it will from time to time, these statements come in handy.
“However, you must thaw it fast and return to presenting yourself.” “
Have you seen Danny Bonaduce’s new talk show? It’s the same as the others, but I’m always wondering when the rest of the Partridge Family will appear. Weird!”
“Did you like the Partridge Family?” for example.

 

 

 

Alternatively, “Sally and Allan are regular attendees to my Raider Party. She dislikes football but enjoys partying. Do you like professional football?”
“You know Sally from college?” Always unveil yourself first, then offer her the option to do the same. “Are you a volleyball player?”
No one is terrified of being rejected if you just convey your interest nonverbally so she may answer nonverbally. While keeping your eyes open for her signals, send her a few discreet signs of interest.

 

 

 

 

ONLY SAFE SUBJECTS

Your feelings on death punishment have nothing to do with courtship’s emotional and physical appeal. Discuss movies, television programs, music, colleges, skiing, backpacking, vehicles, sports teams, beach weather, and places you’ve recently been or are planning to visit.

 

 

 

 

TOPICS THAT ARE PROHIBITED

Never bring up the subject of religion. Avoid topics that elicit strong emotions, such as abortion, civil rights, welfare, sex, politics, and so on.
During the early stages of a discussion, sex is strictly forbidden. In no way, shape, or form, bring up the matter. Don’t retaliate in kind when she makes sexual innuendos or offensive remarks.
Change the topic without making her feel like she’s made a mistake. Even if she says “fuck” every few phrases, don’t curse. Some women use this as a litmus test to discover whether you’re more interested in her as a sex toy or as a person. Pass the examination.

 

 

 

 

 

PROFANITY AND MEN’S VIEW OF WOMEN

Most guys are confused by a woman who swears often or thinks she’s an easy lay. Reserve vulgarity for times when you need to be assertive as a woman. Save vulgarities only when you need his entire attention to make a point.

 

 

 

 

MEN MUST ALWAYS SAY WHAT THEY WANT TO HEAR.

Compliment her once, and only once, throughout each discussion. Because most women are capable of identifying non-controversial issues, your complement must be genuine. Give her a lot of chances to reciprocate. That is the focus of this phase.
In the second and third conversations, reveal more of yourself. What type of music, automobiles, clothing, cuisine, restaurants, and other items do you enjoy? Reveal something you like doing that is totally different later, or even now, if the timing is perfect.

 

If you don’t come off as attempting to impress her, talking about locations you’ve been or are going is usually a smart idea. Travel is a nice, safe, and beneficial subject if you can talk about it without attempting to impress her.

 

 

You start by seeing whether she’s geographically appealing, like you usually do. Incorporate where you live and where you work in a subtle manner. You’re handing the ball on to her. If she provides you this information, it’s strong proof she’s attracted to you, even if she says it casually.
Don’t make a big deal out of it. It’s not critical right now, so don’t waste your time. If she responds in kind, that’s fantastic. Wait a few words or pages if this isn’t the case. Don’t put too much strain on yourself. “Is it a lengthy commute from where you live?” when she explains where she goes to school, work, or play may be done gracefully and subtly.

 

 

If it doesn’t work, wait a few minutes and then ask, “So, which town do you reside in?” but only when the timing is appropriate. “Where do you live?” is a blunt question that makes her stutter and makes her feel pressured. “You from around here?” is a bush league maneuver that shows great interest too quickly.

 

 

Continue to speak. Continue to expose yourself. Pay attention to whatever she says that allows you to encourage further contact for any purpose.

 

 

 

GETTING IT READY FOR HER

As mentioned above, part of the setup is revealing that you’re single and available. Other scenarios involve imagining a method she might help you in some manner. Like